How to be more successful than you ever have been

I’ve just realized that it is definitely possible to do something that I hadn’t thought could be done: Significantly increase one’s ability to become wealthy. Most people. Most of the time.

For years I knew that people could make radical changes in their behavior and stop their negative feelings. In other words, it was relatively easy to stop the “negative.” It was quite another thing to be able to create a “positive.” Especially a positive “reality.”

There are too many things involved in having the perfect life partner show up other than merely getting rid of limiting beliefs and occurrings. For example, you are far less likely to find someone who loves the outdoors at a book club than at a hiking club. The same is true for accumulating wealth: No matter what beliefs or occurrings you have or don’t have—if you want to sell something that no one wants or needs, or if you market to the wrong audience, you probably won’t be successful.

What I now realize in a way I hadn’t before is that, while it might not be possible to insure wealth creation, it is possible to insure eliminating most of the significant barriers to taking the actions that lead to success in all areas of life, including the ability to accumulate wealth.

Specifically, here’s what I understand more fully about success today than I did before. You don’t have to be able to promise specific results if you can promise to eliminate the barriers to achieving the results. For most people, most of the time, that will be sufficient.

First: the role of fundamental beliefs

If you haven’t been as successful as you would like in any area—especially if you haven’t reached the level of financial success that you would like—ask yourself these questions:

• What are your chances for success if your fear of making a mistake or failing stops you from taking action?
• What are your chances for success if your fear of getting rejected when you make a mistake stops you from taking action?
• What are your chances for success if your concern about what others will think of what you’re trying to do or about your results stops you from taking action?
• What are your chances for success if your feeling that your self-worth is a function of doing things perfectly stops you from taking action?
• What are your chances for success if your lack of confidence in your ability stops you from taking action?
• What are your chances for success if your belief that money is hard to get stops you from taking action?
• What are your chances for success if your expectation that achieving what you want will be very difficult stops you from taking action?
• What are your chances for success if your thought that you don’t deserve to be successful stops you from taking action?

Obviously, slim to nil. Fortunately, with the right approach these barriers can be removed for good.

The primary beliefs that cause each of these barriers are:

• Mistakes and failures are bad.
• If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected.
• What makes me good enough or important is having people think well or me.
• What makes me good enough or important is doing things perfectly.
• I’m not good enough; I’m not capable; I’m not competent; I’m powerless.
• You have to work hard to make money. Money is a struggle.
• Life is difficult.
• I’m not deserving.

While eliminating these and other relevant beliefs won’t guarantee that you will achieve success in finding the mate of your dreams or in making a lot of money, you will significantly improve your chances for success by eliminating the beliefs that create roadblocks.

Second: the role of occurrings

In addition to our generalized beliefs (the meanings we have formed about ourselves, people, and life that act as a filter through which we view and interact with reality), we give meaning to specific events as they happen all day long. I define how events occur to us our “occurrings.” These occurrings (that exist only in our minds) seem to be part of the events and cause most of our negative feelings and significantly limit our possibilities for taking action.

• What are your chances for success if the meaning you give to every minor setback is: I knew I couldn’t do it? Or, it’s not really worth the effort? Or, he/she can’t be trusted to do what he/she promised?

• What are your chances for success if the meaning you give to someone saying, “no,” is: I knew I couldn’t get what I wanted?

• What are your chances for success if the meaning you give to an unforeseen obstacle is: I knew something would go wrong?

• And, even more importantly, what if most of our daily occurrings lead to the emotion of fear?

Again, obviously your chances for success are severely diminished if you have frequent negative occurrings with accompanying negative emotions such as fear.

Although beliefs are a primary source of occurrings, it is very difficult to find and unlearn all the beliefs that can cause occurrings. After unlearning hundreds of beliefs over a 25-year-period, I still had a lot of occurrings. You also need to be able to dissolve occurrings and their resulting emotions. When you can do that, you’ve acquired the ability to overcome one of the most important barriers to success.

Third: the role of an “I can’t ….” mindset

I’ve written on several occasions about the mindset that I think made Steve Jobs so successful. While most people operate with a mindset that sees a multitude of things that can’t be done whenever they try to achieve any goal, Steve didn’t think anything couldn’t be done. Or to put it positively, he seemed to believe that virtually anything was possible. He operated as if what people thought was impossible was merely something that people agreed was impossible, not that it really was.

He once said: “Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact: Everything around you that you call life was made up by people who were no smarter than you. The minute that you can understand that … that you can change it, you can poke it, that’s maybe the most important thing.”

Jobs understood something that very few other people do: What most people consider to be “the reality that exists out there,” is, in fact, something that people make up.

Most of the barriers to achieving your goals—whatever they might be, that people assume exist in the world—exist instead in your mind.

The reality most people accept is a manifestation of their accumulated “I can’t …” beliefs, which show up in a mindset characterized by limitations.

• I can’t find the money I need.
• I can’t find the right employees for the job.
• I can’t get an agent/publisher for my book.
• I can’t get my boss to (almost anything).
• I can’t find my soul mate/person of my dreams.
• I can’t (fill in the blank).

These “I can’t …” beliefs are unique to each person and each goal, but they can totally stop you from achieving the success you are striving for in any field of endeavor. It is possible to learn to identify this specific type of limiting belief and eliminate it in a matter of minutes.

Operating out of the Steve Jobs’ Success Mindset won’t guarantee you the level of success Jobs had, but seeing possibilities where others see barriers will make it much more likely for you to achieve a significant level of success in whatever area you are focusing on. Why? Because you will see many possibilities for solving problems that most other people, given their conventional mindset, can’t see.

Fourth: the role of other elements of
a mindset of limitless possibilities

In a recent blog post I wrote that we often allow things we aren’t sure how to handle to stop totally when we say something like, “I want to achieve my goals, but ….” Merely considering something to be an obstacle to achieving a goal will likely result in it becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. As I’ve explained, simply by considering any “but” that prevents you from achieving a goal to be part of the goal itself will eliminate that “but” as a psychological obstacle. This simple mental activity will enable you to take action that you had been unable to take before.

There are many other mental “tricks” like this one that will profoundly affect your ability to achieve the success that has eluded you this far. Learning how to use them all consistently as part of a success mindset would be part of this new program I have in mind.

Put it all together and achieve your dreams of success

I’m not sure the best way to offer all this to you as a simple package, but I’m sure we’ll figure out something. In the meantime, I’m excited to be able to report that I am now convinced that you can drastically increase your ability to be significantly more successful in all areas of life, including your ability to make more money and accumulate more wealth.

How to find out more

If you’d like to find out more about this program when it’s available, please click here.

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