During the past five years I’ve written about 300 blog posts about The Lefkoe Method and its many applications and implications. When I sat down to write this week’s post my mind just went blank. I 
couldn’t think of a single thing to write about. I’m sure there are many, many topics that would fit the theme of this blog, but I just couldn’t think of any.
What I’ve tried to cover in my weekly posts are issues like: Various aspects of human behavior and human emotions, why we do what we do, why change is usually difficult and how to make change easy. I’ve discussed what it means to be a “human being.” I’ve looked at the many behaviors and feelings that are considered to be human nature but really aren’t. And I’ve discussed the mind-body connection and how I dealt with being told I had cancer.
You can get information on everything I’ve written about to date
You can see a table of contents for the titles of all my posts on this site. You can also search for specific terms and find all the posts on any given topic. That will give you a sense of what I‘ve already covered; you might find some interesting posts you missed or that I posted before you started following me.
What I’d like your help on is identifying issues involving human behavior and emotions that you would like to know more about.
I’ve asked you in the past to suggest problems you want me to discuss and you listed many of them, such as: Why do I allow fear to stop me and how can I get rid of it? As a result of your requests, I’ve written about a lot of specific problems, their causes, and how to deal with them.
Do you have any suggestions?
Now I’m interested in broader topics than solving specific problems, although if there is a specific one I have not yet commented on, I’ll be happy to do so. Is there anything about being a human being that you would like me to write about?
Please share your suggestions in the comment box below and I will do my best to write my next few posts using your suggestions.
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Trust. I have a hard time trusting anyone. I have been through most of the Lefkoe courses and don’t get what I could out of them. This issue has been a problem for as long as I can remember. My sister has the same issues. This issue errodes the quality of my life.
How about this subject: Why most people are so focused on being perfect ? It would not be better just to
try be a good person and calmy improve on that?
IIs it possible the cause of so much apathy, depression, … etc..?
Your comments on that
would be much appreciated. Thanks.
And accept my condolences for your mom recent passing., please.
José Luis
Hi Jose,
The answer is a couple of beliefs: What makes me good enough is doing things perfectly and What makes me good enough is having people think well of me.
Unlearn those two beliefs and your need to be perfect will significantly diminish. Eliminate a few other beliefs and it will be totally eliminated.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,I keep changing my mind about leaving my husband,I have such conflicted feelings about it,can you help?
I’d be interested in reading more about people’s beliefs about money, material things (cars, homes, gadgets), and other “relationships” with things that aren’t alive.
Second, I’d be interested in learning more about people whose belief system is vastly different from my own – people who don’t see the world in the same way that I do.
Third, I’m interested in hearing more about human development levels.
Hi Morty,
How about writing about why people get so emotional in following sports teams? If your team wins, it’s ecstasy and if they lose it’s misery.
What meaning are people giving to their team winning?
What does it mean to them if their team loses?
People seem far more emotional about their team than anything in their lives that has direct consequences to them. Underneath following a team is there a belief in hopelessness and helplessness about their own lives and situations? Why do we long so much for winning when it means someone else must lose?
Regards,
Greg
If automatic meanings are not useful, how can anyone be led to make decisions? If we stopped having an automatic meaning making brain how could would we stop and decide to make a choice about anything that leads to long term success/goal achievement?
Everything we need we had at conception; then corporal life kidnaps us,
robs us blind, enslaves us to sensation, and holds us for a ransom.
We are continually propositioned with these amazing offers, to buy back
our enlightened estate. Why would anyone agree to pay for restoration,
of life to what it was before our systematic destruction in childhood?
Paying for restoration of stolen property is condoning extortion.
No sacrifice, is too great for God to ask, someone else to make.
Would love to see a Lefkoe article about staying peaceful with life’s ceaseless to-do list and litany of tasks to complete… What beliefs are blocking peace here?
Sending love, appreciation and admiration. I’ve never seen someone recover from cancer like you have, without ‘formal’ treatment! It’s a real testament that you ‘walk the walk’ of your Lefkoe Method, and that it works miacles, literally! Jason
If it’s true that “whatever the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve” why can’t it conceive of or believe in peace on earth?
BTW your method is wonderful and initial sample works. and….
Fear ( ? terror, annihilation ?) of success. I have actually had several wonderful achievements however I haven’t been able to capitalize, follow-thru, on them. therapy has informed me of several “causes” :
“Fear of success” due to
a) traumatic infant separation (loss of both parents, father permanent, mother till about 2 yrs old(
b) emotional hostility, abuse
c) actual incident of abandonment /confinement at 6 months
d) other
I actual keep “trying” acting yet “collapse” after several attempts or initial success.
so much for “story”, it seems “invisible to me ?preverbal ? what I’m telling myself to “not persist”, literally if i want to do tasks that are good for me I get overwhelmed after 1 or more actions; extreme fatigue anxiety .
any blogs/thoughts about “Fear of Success”
Infidelity – why people have affairs. Also how the betrayed can emerge with their self esteem intact in order to gain strength to move on. So many people seem to write about the betrayed spouse being somehow responsible for being cheated on which really just adds salt to an open wound and surely we are not responsible for another persons actions? Doesn’t it say more about a persons character that they chose to cheat instead of divorce if a relationship was so bad?
Many thanks
Hi Morty!
I’m so glad about you!
Thanks for fight for living, ’cause we need you and your wisdom so much!
As being a human being, that is so different of live as if we were human, i suggest you to complete your amazing texts about, with the topic ; – what I REALLY needs to be happy!
I’m brazilian; and brazilians’ , in a general analysis, is always searching for something that we c’ant understand.
It’s seems that our “big chest hole ” is unfilled!!!!
In all social classes, this ” problem” appears making people very unhappy.
I’ve reprograming hundreds of people with NLP – neurolinguistics programming- but it must be completed with your suggestions!
Our country is in the development process that seems USA in latest 70’s, you know?
Maybe your brillhant mind can help thousands of sad people understand how life can be lived!
Thanks Morty
Taich
I realize that low self worth and other limiting root assumptions/beliefs are unhealthy and unconstructive. But I find myself not able and/or not willing to get rid of them. This is intensely distressing to me.
Thanks for any help on this.
Hi Mark,
Low self-esteem is the result of specific negative beliefs. Eliminate the beliefs and your sense of yourself will improve.
The Lefkoe Belief Process does permanently unlearn beliefs. Try it at http://recreateyourlife.com. We’ve helped about 150,000 do it.
Love,Morty
I would like to know what you think about GOOD DECISION MAKING. It is so important, but not taught anywhere. What do you think?
Well, to speak to your 3 rreebies, I am good enough, although I feel that this begs the question “good enough for what?” , and I am important to most of the people that are important to me. I have forgotten the 3rd one, but i didn’t apply either.
My problem is that I am old (80) and my body doesn’t work the way it used to, and I wish it were different.
I still have fun, and learn stuff, like a few new computer languages, and am working on a number of projects, one of which is putting together workshops to help people find and ask the really important questions for them.
So I am happy, by any objective standard, but not satisfied. And perhaps that’s the way it should be.
Comments?
Ken Turner
Hi Morty,
Many thanks for your wonderful methods. I think that these might have worked very well for many people but not for me. You assumed that people’s belief of “I am not good enough” was formed when they were children. This is not the case for me. I do not feel confident about myself is because some healthy issues I was not be able to do any exercise well- as a matter of fact, I have been very bad at any sports/exercise- Even today I still could not swim.
I must say that my case might be unique but it might be worth your attention.
Many thanks for your efforts of helping us.
Hi, Morty,
What bothers me these days is why it seems to be human nature for human beings to be so brutal, barbaric and savage? Evidence the book, THE LORD OF THE FLIES. Evidence the genocide that’s going on in parts of Africa, the violence of the Islamic State and other countries in the Middle East (Syria, for example), where human life appears to be very cheap. The thin veneer of civilization seems thinner than ever. It seems to make no difference whether human beings are guided by religious or political beliefs, modern governments or tribal unities, violence and savagery seem to be the method of choice for getting what they want. And this is the 21st century! Seems like human beings have not learned anything in their long time on earth. What do you think?
Could you share what “science” findings you believe best support the Lefkoe methods?
Or even what writers, pundits…or even scientists, most unfluenced the development of the Lefkoe methods.
Your work is already so powerful, but if you perhaps partner up with someone from the science community, your message will be spread further. I’m not talking permanent partnership. Even a one time join-up might make a difference to further the communication of the great stuff you have to say.
the need to return to the one, which manifest in many ways in humans
Hi Morty,
Really loving your triliminals and am making progress. One of the programs suggested a topic – the need for control or power. It seems to me the human need for control is a root cause of a lot of problems.
Thank you for helping to improve my life,
Marilyn
Morty,
In reading your book, you have a gift for helping people overcome barriers of race, class, etc. As suggested earlier, it would be great to see a focus on acceptance, and specifically, acceptance of “the other” in our lives. There are so many divisive issues and corresponding divisive beliefs in our society. They can create a toxic environment politically, socially, and in the media. The threat of Ebola, for example, is a social concern that has become a heated topic politically and in the media, though the chances of actually getting Ebola are less than getting struck by lightning. Yet some people let their fears of “the other” who has Ebola, dominate their common sense and create irrational fears – otherwise, we wouldn’t be seeing it so much in the news.
Please continue your great work of promoting healthy behavior through acceptance of reality. Thank you for your help in eliminating several limiting beliefs – It is empowering and life-changing!
Given recent events in Ferguson Missouri, I like your suggestion for “acceptance of the other”.
Morty,
You’ve convinced many people, myself included, that they can achieve happiness, fulfilment, success (measured in their terms), etc. themselves, via your methods or another cognitive-based-approach. In view of this, do you still see the need for religion, god or gods, spirituality, or other supernatural realm? To fess up, I’m a secular humanist, so I certainly don’t see the need for any of that.
Michael
Hi Morty,
Using your idea about reframing limited childhood beliefs was very liberating, and helped me; but I noticed something that happened aways down the line, that has happened many times to me in my life, and I know you’ll recognize it. After something has taken effect, after awhile the effect wears off, and it’s back to the same situation. I firmly believe that part of the spiritual environment we exist in, has a negative, malevolent component to it; and I think that this negativity is what eventually takes over again in our minds to cover up and stop us from remembering our gain(s), and allow the time necessary to build new neural connections which help to cement the gains in place permanently. I have been a student of self-help, psychology, and spirituality for many years, and have seen this phenomenon happen over and over again not only with myself,but with many others also. I keep track of various technologies (binaural beats, subliminal suggestion, hypnosis, and now reverse speech) through various newsletters and over the internet; and the one thing that many claim to be able to do, but I haven’t seen any real results yet is to actually take out limiting beliefs and reprogram the subconscious mind with positive thoughts, and the ability to keep them there without the blocking, or covering up that occurs somewhere down the line. I would like to see you write about the phenomenon I mention above, and any research or programs you know of that address this problem.
Hi Kevin,
The Lefkoe Belief Process does permanently unlearn beliefs. Try it at http://recreateyourlife.com. We’ve helped about 150,000 do it.
Love,Morty
1)Write about “Doing things you don’t want to or don’t feel like doing” dread…how do you totally change your attitude about the many tedious and boring things you may be called upon to do in daily life? ie., job aspects you dislike, dealing with problems with the kids, etc.
2) Or write about Steve Jobs’ “reality distortion field”…he badgered, begged and screamed his way to creating results far beyond others could create…bully, genius, crazy man….just some of things he was called….but the results were there. Actualized Dreamer?
How to eliminate fear of cancer coming back?
Morty,
Have you looked at covering addiction personality disorders porn addiction love addiction I know most addictions are looking to not deal with feelings exc… Fear is a big one I know you have worked a lot on that one… Just a thought
Wish you the best of luck
Eric
Dear Morty:
I am very interested in the big picture questions of our time like how social media – and the perceived need people feel to curate their lives for public consumption – is affecting our well being and happiness. Another one that often strikes me is how the talent market (aka job market) always talking about the best and brightest among us works for the great majority who may not be in that group. For me an over arching theme is how to strike the balance between seeing/ feeling the struggles of others and staying focused on the day to day things I can influence. I look forward to your thoughts on any of these questions.
Lisa
Maybe you have written about this and I missed it (not being a parent myself) … I’d like to see a plan or outline to help parents intentionally and systematically discuss with their children the most common (mis)beliefs that kids form from their parents’ actions, so the kids can start finding those and dissolving them right from childhood. Use right on the spot after an interaction that the parent can see could probably be misinterpreted to the child’s detriment. No more having to wait until we are adults and have decades more scars before finding peace and learning how to live life without all that baggage!
And how about “daily devotions” (using a Christian term to try to illustrate what I’m suggesting) for ALL of us … don’t wait for an issue to come up; proactively and systematically “attack” potential beliefs. Can we all do this on our own? Of course! Are we likely to? Maybe not so much. After all, it just now occured to me to do! You’ve got decades of specific beliefs from your clients. OK, maybe most of us won’t relate to the one that comes up on a certain day, but maybe it will suggest something else that IS an issue for us to work on. That is the best part of other peoples’ experience–bringing up things I’m blind to in myself (because of beliefs I’m not aware of).
I really relate to Jayanthi’s post about the constant self-talk. Me too! I think a structured plan of attack could really be helpful for readers like us.
Recently I read about using the EFT technique to clear reversals every 15 minutes all day long to help people who are deeply in a negative rut. It would be a little difficult to do Lefkoe techniques every 15 minutes, but I like the idea of a systematic program to re-focus us on these tools several times through the day to help us super-charge the result.
I would like to see a program such as Natural Confidence focusing on love issues, maybe called something like Natural Love. It would eliminate a cluster of beliefs such as, “I’m alone,” “I’m not loved,” “I will be abandoned,” “Nobody loves me,” “It is not safe to trust others with my love,” “Nobody cares about me,” I hate myself,” “I am not worthy of love,” “To love someone deeply causes pain,” “I don’t know how to sustain love,” “I am afraid of intimacy,” “I am disgusting,” “People who love me will hurt me,” “There isn’t room in this world for myself and the person I love deeply,” “Loving me is too much trouble,” and “I don’t deserve love.”
How can one better handle death and grief? Especially of a deeply loved person such as your soul mate or child?
My problem is constant self-talk…whenever I am not reading or watching TV..those are the only times ..apart from sleep time .. that I am free of continuous self talk..it is very difficult specially when I am driving, trying to meditate or in the kitchen trying to get a meal ready on time..help will be really appreciated
I would like understand why you ” gurus” are so concentrated to make money that forget the biggest reason HELP PEOPLE, why do we need to pay so many money for your help, why you don´t leave us get results first and then you ask for money???
How about a post on the subject “A Life that Matters” ?
Hi Morty,
I would be pleased to have your perspective about how to be happy and confident in the world.
I mean: with all the violence, and the intrinsic competence of human being to act in a stupid, non sense and dangerous way .
Although I’m committed to bring release and peace for people, It’s really difficult for me to love them – and me -as we are = as a human being (I mean: capable of the best and the worst!)
Thanks in advance
Danielle
Thanks Morty for your energy&insights.You have been tackling the issue of Conditioning in your blogs and doing a great job.However,I will still like you to focus on how we can drop those ‘rafts’ that have served us so well in the past…brought us success…but now seem to be standing in the way of our growth.The tendencies of Controlling&Complying….N-j0y…nAz
Hi Morty,
I have procrastination and still have fear of public speaking even though I have done a lot of work on myself that has moved me forward in many ways. I still get stuck in some of my behavior issues, i.e.short fuse, impatience. It has come to my attention that I have a lot of symptoms of ADD or maybe something else. Do you ever look into this as a possible reason some of us and maybe our parents (hereditory) have a form of this and may need medication, awareness and understanding of these issues at least?
When I look back to observe my childhood, I get the feeling that if my parents (1)had taught me differently, (2)had talked to me differently- especially about money matters, (3) were not over-protective, (4) had not explained that only hard work brings honest money, (5) no formal education means no job…………I know now that I would have been different. We are never taught true values in school, but are constantly exposed to competition. And competition develops fear. Once fear enters the mind, we know the rest.
Hi Morty,
Have you ever written about clutter & hoarding? The inability to let go of anything. Emotional & sentimental attachment to things; and not only physical things, but stuff like information & memories, too. I’m having a big problem with this and am very stuck.
Hi Phil, check out The Minimalists website/blog or read the book – Everything that Remains. It may set you in motion toward freedom.
The most destructive feelings to me are fear and worry. You worry about money and work hard to get enough money not to worry about them. But finally you get that enough money but worry is still there. Now you worry not to loose what you got.
Maybe you tackle this problem?
Thanks
I love your blogs and newsletters and I unfolded myself during the last monthes immensially. My main problem, now as I am at total peace and full of love is attaching people who believe to feel in love with me- but they are those kind of people who “misinterpret” love with a personal inner misbalance in the filling of theirs inners facets, but do not accept my kind refuses. I attach people that listen to me and believe in what I say, but do not get into action, seing the savior in me, instead of developing themselves…
With so much emphasis on success, perfomance, growth, happiness, etc …
It would be much better to focus on acceptance, thanksgiiving, ….?
It would be simpler and easier. But then, how psicologist, psiquiatrics, .. would get their money from?
I am sure you will have a perfect answer.
With so much emphasis on success, perfomance, growth, happiness, etc …
It would be much better to focus on acceptance, thanksgiiving, ….?
It would be simpler and easier. What the, how psicologist, psiquiatrics, .. would get their money?
I am sure you will have a perfect answer.
I am having occasional panic attacks. I feel panicky if I am on empty stomach. How to approach to dissolve this belief.
Please write about how to eliminate the feeling of not loving yourself because this problem stems from childhood and leads to a lot of self destructive behaviors in adulthood.
I would really like to know how to get rid of sociopaths and stalkers.
My main problem being that I absolutely do not want to have anything to do with these kind of people.
Thank you
Thank you for your blog, I always look forward to reading it and discovering new ways of improving myself. Here is a topics I would like you to address. I only recently started following your blog, and I am not sure if you have addressed this one before. If you did, may be you can share a link to that post. Thank you again!
Parental guilt. – sometimes, no, most of the time I tend to feel responsible for my children’s behavior and choices. Mostly because I recognize my own downfalls as a parent in years prior. I have changed a lot myself and the way I interact with my kids, however, sometimes I see the “damage” I have done to them, and I am consumed by guilt. How do I stop feeling guilty and improve my self-confidence as a parent? What can I do as a parent to help them eliminate the beliefs that I have instilled in them? ( they are teens and will not admit to having any beliefs, nor seek the way to self improve)
Why do Humans feel that they have to be guided by a “Higher Power” to function in this world.
Why isn’t “This Life” good enough? Why do people need to believe that there is some mythical place where everything is forever perfect? Why isn’t “This Life” good enough for most humans?