You know something that I don’t – and if you’re willing to share it with me, I’ll return the favor and help you to live the life you’ve always wanted to live.
So here’s my question for you:
What’s the one area of your emotional life that you’d most like to improve?
It could be reducing fear, anger, and upsets, or handling grief… or dealing with any other emotional problem that’s a burning issue for you.
So take a minute to let me know by posting your answer below.
I’ll summarize the responses and let you know the results. And I’ll also create some blog posts that will address these critical topics and show you how to minimize the negative emotions in your life.
I know exactly where I want to be but don’t know what I need to get rid of to get there.
For me having enough self esteem and value in myself to be able to be non reactive and confident in every situation that may arise within life i.e. Work, Relationships is one of the most important things. Also being able to really push myself beyond anything I thought I could possibly ever do. Procrastionation would also be a nice one to rid but I believe this comes from lack of self esteem.
I need to get RID of the critical parent (in my head) that causes me to try to make everything PERFECT! I need to replace my “critical parent” with loving acceptance of myself and others. Then I can work on believing that I am competent and worthwhile.
Definitely, procastination.
When I’m under pressure I do things bang on time, but when is enough time left, then I wait the deadline to do them.
Overcome all my resistences to go beyond my limited ego .
Really stop procastination and focus in real actions instead dedicating so much time to learning and practicing.
Fear to compromise.
I want to conquer my fear and anxiety
associated with irritable bowel syndrome.
I irrationaly worry too much and fear what
people will think
Learning to accept my ill health, letting go of and grieving for all the things I love that I can’t do any more, or that I wanted to do but will never do now. Living with being a burden on everyone else. Dealing with the fact that most people who know me now, or meet me, only see the ‘ill person’ not the ‘person’.
Hi Morty
44 years old and I have only recently realized that most of my problems stem from a deep-seated fear of disapproval. This fear dominates almost all of my social interactions and has had a huge negative effect on my life. My number one goal is to eliminate this fear.
It would be nice if you could help.
Willie
Hello Morty,
I am one of those people who has all the answers for everyone. Intellectually, I do have the answers. What I really need for myself, though, is to own the knowledge that I am important and worthy of all that the Universe provides for each and every one of us. If I would just believe in that abundance and believe in myself. I want to immerse myself in that abundance feeling. Thanks, Morty for asking the question.
Hi Morty,
Ditto on the above :) I want to handle situations without reacting – I mean major reacting. I know it is fear and I beat myself up afterwards. I know I should not have done it.
K
Procrastination and dealing with confrontation
Hi Morty:
I think procrastination, knowing where is the line between someone hurting you and the feeling of trying to help him open his eyes from the movie he has created in his mind, when to walk appart from a relation that is hurting you and when to keep on dealing with it, stop needing approval from the others.
I hope you will find this information useful.
Procrastination
Procrastination.
When I was one year old my mother fell ill and I and my sister were given to a family friend couple to look after us. They looked after us well. After a year we went back when my mother got better. But then my auntie and uncle adopted me and took me away. for a long time I did not even know they were not my real parents. Then when I was twenty i ended up back with my own family. I had slight problems being accepted by them. Now deep down I always think that nobody likes me. I am not good enough to be loved.
I have tried many therapies. But nothing seems to work totally. I only get slight benefit of whatever I do. I was bright but am not successful at all.
I fully share Marla’s comment: “My simple answer is fear since that leads to so many other emotions and is the opposite of where I want to be … my goal is love or above!”
Fear of Rejection. I think if I really peel back all the layers of my many fears, this is the one.
I want to feel completly deserving of all the things I want, both material and non-material. My hope is that if I feel truly deserving and worthy of these things I will allow them to flow to me, or I will recognize the actions I need to take in order to acquire or acheive them, rather than sit in fear, sadness and overwhelm.
I would like to, really, have the belief that money come easy, And I can enjoy working for them. I would like to think of money like they are my birthright. I would like to feel like having money is normal.
Being dismayed/ annoyed by others; their petty foibles.
Feelings of resentment and hurt because of being tortured all mt life.
Having an abundance of positive people in my life, along with the absence of the negative one(s).
Fear of survival;feeling safe-a woman’s major issue
Life is wonderful. I am applying all the things Ihave learned and its really working great for me. I am in a situation where I am trying to do stuff that a few years ago would have stoped me cold in my tracks. Today I went to a meeting in down pouring rain, got there on time and did not get nervus and mess it up. The person that I met with told me excatly what I needed to know to move forward with their help and even agreed to help me. THIS IS AWSOME. As I tried to talk myself out of this very important meeting, I would instantly refute the negative language going on in my head and kept moving. WOW THIS IS GREAT. I am so excited. I am again applying the information I have learned over the years and I am having success like I never had before. Thanks be to God and all the people he has brought into my life to help me along the way.
Reducing fear of being hurt by others and being angry at the way the world is with inequalities, sexism, racism, exploitation of third world countries, etc.
Reducing fear of making my dreams come true…I think the fear comes from caring too much about how I look – will I embarrass myself failing or on the flip side, the huge fear of having success take away my freedom (I think more accurate!!)
Also, now, I’ve developed an absolute anger towards myself because I’ve let my fear keep me from my dreams and I’m sick of it but I am so stuck in it….I feel like it’s never going to change now and am losing hope.
My simple answer is fear since that leads to so many other emotions and is the opposite of where I want to be … my goal is love or above!
i would like to eliminate fear – fear of failing, fearing of losing, fear of the past. I manage it sometimes but then the old feelings wash back over me and i become stuck again
I need help in, having fears when I am dating or getting close to a person. I am the one who gets hurt all the time. Maybe I am attracting that happend but, I can’t get rib of this fear…Thanks!!
For me, its a lack of focus. All my attentions are scattered and I never concentrate on one thing at a time. Consequently, I have problems finishing anything. I’d like, just once in my life, to focus , commit and take ownership of whatever I’m working with and move on.
The ability to accept that I am worthy. Worthy of having a great life, home, car, and doing the things that make me happy. I worry to much about my successes offending others.
For thirty years I have successfully headed up many multimillion dollar projects , staffed by hundreds of technical and professional people , sometimes worldwide, for huge corporations. Now that I want to build a business of my own I am frozen with thoughts about the fact that I don’t have a degree and don’t have money to invest in building my own company. The leaders of those companies believed in me more than I believe in myself.
To remove the fear of public speaking.
Letting go of Fear! Definitely. The worst is Fear of Rejection and being left. If I could get past this Fear in my life, I could Live!!!
I really belive im lacking in self-confidence, thus loosing sooo many chances in my life. I feel like i’ve lost my greatest dream already because of procrastinating and not taking even smallest step toward it. Its like circle, i think of it everyday, visualizing myself accomplishing this dream, living it and at the end it makes me feel so bad about myself. If only…
Fear of success, fear of even trying because it means change and facing unknowns.
My simple answer is fear. On a more complicated scale I would like to do away with fear because fear leads to anger, it can lead to upset, it can lead to depression, it can lead to unreasonable phobias (agoraphobia), etc. To me it seems like the base cause of a lot of emotional problems for me so I would like to see it gone. Not completely because sometimes fear is a good warning but mostly. I have been trying to conquer it for years now I just try to acknowledge it and go on about my life.
Because you have not fully let go of the negative
In your subconscious mind
A thought comes into the concious ,and you can either reject that thought or you can keep it. Now we have choices what we think about It is a choice with what we allow in our minds to dwell our subconcious mind ,where by LAW it goes into your body and it acts outt whatever we were thinking about at that time
Sometimes we have past experiences that we act out on
Being Aware of what you thinking is the ideal source of what we act on on
Remember we have choices
We are not like animals,God made us in his own image and likeness so we have a beautiful mind to think on things that are lovely
If you look at nature there is also a law for it there is different seasons etc
Read Think and Grow Rich
While I have always been somewhat sensitive, it seems the more I try to grow as a person and break through the blocks the more “blubbery” I get. I’m tired of crying so easily! My life would be vastly improved if I could figure out what to do with the strong feelings (other than turning on the water works) when they show up. After years of trying to bottle them up because others might be uncomfortable with sadness, anger, frustration, whatever (and then having “explosions” when I couldn’t hold them in any more) I never figured out what to do with them.
It makes ME uncomfortable to feel so jittery, so I’m sure I’m seen by some, if not many, as emotionally unstable (which isn’t the case at all – denying your feelings altogether in the interest of others’ comfort is what makes a person unstable imho). We have to learn to actually handle emotion, not just bury it – so how do I do that and still maintain a sense of professionalism, decorum, or whatever term you like best. I don’t regret being a passionate person, I just want to learn how to use that passion effectively rather than having the strong emotions driving the bus!
I do not fully agree with the comment that Jackie made though may be others will not agree with me. I won’t be offended by that. However I don’t really think (as someone that just a few years back had those same kind of water work outbursts) that it’s about not having let go of the negative. You have stated that you have never learned how to properly deal with your emotions and I believe that’s the answer right there-at least it was for me. It would come up like a vast, sweeping typhoon and I would have little to no warning that it was coming.
What worked for me (and it took TIME) was learning to acknowledge even the smallest emotions. I journaled or I would admit them out loud (even if it was to an empty apartment). I wouldn’t beat myself up if the emotion seemed ridiculous (I once told my apartment that I was jealous of a girl that was dating a guy I didn’t even like-it was embarrassing even in that empty place). What it did for me was help me to recognize all the feelings that I was having so that when the bigger stuff was coming on I was much better prepared to handle it. Yes, sometimes I might still cry-I did when my brother died for sure! But I don’t have the pent up outbursts of emotion anymore. Life is a journey and a learning process. If you don’t get it right today, so what? Is God going to smite you because you cried on your final day? I don’t think so. Just remember-there is NOTHING wrong with HAVING an emotion, it’s all about what you do with it (from smother-love to violent anger, there are BETTER ways). May this helps for now, may be not but I thought I would put my two cents in.
My biggest obstacle is fear, fear in general and also specifically an underlying fear of people and of them attacking me if anything I do invokes their displeasure, and feelings of not being able to defend myself and having to allow people to do whatever they want to me.
All these things are leftovers from childhood, and I would dearly love to be able to overcome them and live an authentic life released from these irrational fearful thoughts.
I want to be able to feel whatever I am feeling and allow it to sink in, acknowledge it, and then be able to deal with it appropriately. If it’s something that I need to say, this will pass, allow it to pass! If it’s something I need to surrender to God, just do that and move on. Not hide or stuff it down or ignore it. Ok, Marty, go for it!
Well that is some quesrtion.. I had to ponder over it for a while..
I think what is most in my way is the doubt I feel sometimes
(with disappoinments a.s.o.)
Doubt is something on my list to get rid off I do belief strongly in the power of the Universe of which we are an indivisible part
I do belief in miracles the smal ones and the big ones and still doubt every now and then whisper in my ears…..
my deep need for security and approval … also i need learn how to accept my feelings.. did notice that i was running from feelings,good or bad,like i donnt deserve good and want to run away from bad ones..and maybe finding a way to stop analizing myself,brake free from self help industry..really wannt to find some method,one method that will change my life forever ..i am still testing lefkoe method:)
To remove fear and anxiety mentally ( so i dont think about it every moment that i got) , psychologically, relationship, financial, and those fear that blocks me from going after my dream. Grew up with very negative environment, negative self talk seems to never end. Cannot find the strength to be just okay just the way i am. To release the feeling of undeserving and low self esteem. Constantly have to justify a million times for doing something worthwhile fearing that i might just not be right. Eliminate self doubt. Betrayed but still feel the need to please those who betrayed me, need to know how to stop that.. self sabotage in short!
Thank you.
Hi, Morty
I have to acknowledge that I have a confidence, fear and anxiety problem.
The reason I am saying this, for a very long time (7 years) I have wanted to
have an online internet business. I will have all the tools but yet I would not get out of the starting blocks. Will keep on buying newer materials to no avail. Even offline businesses I tried leaving my job thrice but got nowhere! Then today I took stock and I realised I haven’t got the qualities
I thought I had… To put it bluntly, I never took action of the opportunities
I stared in the face. I will start a project then it will fade. Therefore I need help though I found myself wanting, I have no money at this point, zero nothing. I know what I want, how to do it but haven’t got the money to do it. I feel as if something is holding me back. So frustrated!
Reversing financial devastation. Reducing fear/dread/anxiety. Replacing it with joy/faith/trust. Believing in myself, life, and the universe. Overcoming procrastination, avoidance, and addiction to nicotine and sugar. Thank you.
Feelings of not being good enough. It manifests as me being judgemental and finding people lacking when all I want to do is to love myself and everyone else for who and what we are
reducing the fear of financial ruin and a heartbreak I just went through
I can’t afford and I don’t deserve because I stole from people and churches when I was a child…my mother never had enough money and we had to beg for anything not in the budget…I have spent my life so far being frustrated , angry and depressed…I would love some advice on how to begin to remove all the self sabotage which keeps me from experiencing true joy and peace and love in my love…Help
Namaste
Ron
Reducing fear of survival, staying safe
Fear of abandonment…which of course is a self-fullfilled prophecy in many cases. Starting over is not easy, but it is interesting. Its trusting others where you take a big chance. Spent my life trying to fit in. Am an adult adoptee. A science experiment from the late 1960’s. Have support group. Injured on a job where the main value of the company was to provide quality care for senior citizens…then was terminated after I fell in an area required to cross because the company did not provide parking. The truth is I have worked so hard and made all my dreams come true without unconditional love from others. I have given it and sadly its not always returned. This is hard to accept.
I deeply want and need to be set free from everything compulsive in its nature, such as lifelong procrastination, judgmental thinking, impulsivity, and scattered attention (which seems synchronized with my inability to focus well, as in ADD).
These are four big subcategories, but I know my spiritual freedom will require me to also love, trust, feel comfortable with others as-is, to help heal mankind’s spiritual fracture from aeons ago that led to all our COMPULSIVE need to remain SEPARATE from others.
It almost seems impossible to imagine how much my life would dramatically change overnight if I were to immediately become able to let go and allow myself to fully experience emotionally, not just mentally, being One with all life through loving each and every being unconditionally. That is the largest and most comprehensive of all my heart’s dreams that I’d like to bring to fruition, not just to “improve”. And that’s where my strongest focus and interests are today.
Procastination and lack of focus makes me burn with anxiety and do random things isntead of focusing. It seems like I need a lot of time to learn something new, but I can’t put a minute into focusing on my objectives.
I need help removing fear/anxiety
Hi Billy,
The Natural Confidence program is designed to remove fear/anxiety. In fact we offer a lifetime guarantee that it will. I promise.
Regards, Morty
Releasing deep-seated disappointment when betrayed by others with the accompanying feeling that it was my fault. Getting rid of procrastination based on the idea that if something’s not done perfectly, then why do it at all. The latter keeps me from getting started on some projects altogether.
I would think my emotional problem is fear! Funny thing is, I don’t even know what I am afraid of so addressing it will be difficult. As a child my greatest fear was having to be in a play, or doing anything up in front of the class. As an adult I’ve dealt with anxiety for over 20 years. I think people with anxiety issues are never “cured” but you can have it under control, which I do. The anxiety may come to the surface a bit when having to speak or preform in front of a group of people. Strange thing though is it’s easier for me with an audience of strangers. I think it’s because they don’t know me, so for some reason I feel less fear, or worry less about what their reaction will be. Maybe figuring if I fail, know one I know will find out because I have no friends or family in the audience. Most people would suggest that I imagine the audience full of friends and family which in my case would make things much worse. I’m great in a living room sitting with people or at maybe a wedding at a table with ten people. But invite me up to the microphone to give a toast of preform a routine and the fear rushes up in a hurry. I’m trying to preform stand-up comedy and obviously this will be an obstacle for me. In life, I am a very outgoing, comfortable with everyone, type of person. No one that knows me would ever believe I have a fear to preform, because I preform all the time when I am around people. But to get on a stage has always been a huge fear for me.
I’m struggling because I’m a single mom with a special needs child and another teenager. I’m talented, smart, even gifted, perhaps, and good at lots of things. But I cannot get it out of my head that single moms have no value…and therefore I’m running out of gas and spinning my wheels trying to make ends meet AND be a good mother. The successful males in my family watch me struggle and ignore it. Must be a family belief that women either can’t succeed without a man, or that we don’t have value without a man, or maybe women really aren’t even human beings with feelings and legitimate needs!!!!
To stop procrastinating and get focus on what I want to do. One of my biggest problems is I spend all my energy at work and then when I get home, I have no motivation or energy to do anything I want to do for myself, such as doing things I want to do for my own business. I also keep buying practically every program I see just because I think that one will help me, and then I work on it in the beginning and lose motivation with that. I know the things I want to do, I just can’t get myself focused and motivated to do it.
I already posted, but then remembered something else.
The other night I was feeling more peaceful than I had for a long time, because I’d released a lot of beliefs, with your method. Then, inexplicably, my mind seemed to frantically look for things to stress about and pick apart and worry about. It occurred to me then, that I have been tense for so long maybe…and am so used to fear that my mind is afraid of feeling peace!! I crave ease and feeling peacefulness sometimes but my mind seems to equate that with Giving up, because the times I have “given up” in my life have been the few times I have let go and felt quiet (albeit it was an empty sort of quiet). So now, apparently a part of me is terrified that if I am not constantly feeling a bit intense inside then I am “giving up”! Which means I am unable to have peace and ease, it seems, until I find some way to get comfortable with feeling calm and not equating calm with “not doing anything” or with “giving up” or with “Not achieving” or with being lazy or any other negative things. Certainly there are people in the world who are successful AND calm and happy . I would like to be one of those people. I would like to get to that place where I can be calm and still achieve things–I don’t want to work myself into a heart attack… I’d prefer avoiding that… In sum… in addition to what I wrote earlier, I’d love to develop…”How to be okay with feeling ease and peace inside, and to know I can be that way and still get things done–I dont have to run around with my gut and chest so tight and in knots all the time. And learning that peace does not equal death”
Sorry this is so long, but you did ask :-)
I have some self esteem issues. I often fear I won’t be able to complete certain tasks. Other self esteem symptoms include: fear of failure, of criticism, procrastination, I compare myself to others . I don’t know where this “need for approval” comes from. I really don’t .
I took up meditation to help me feel better but I think it will take a while to deal with this bad programming.
What’s the one area of your emotional life that you’d most like to improve? Well, to let go of control and uncertainty to stop being fearful of the unexpected. Sometimes I feel that I am drifting away in a direction to no-where.
Hi Morty,
Anger. I’m sure that when I’m angry I have very good reasons for it, but it’s too much and it takes too long. How can I cope with frustration in a more positive and creative way and how can I improve the way I let people know they don’t respect my boundaries?
What seems to blindside me more than anything else is self-criticism, doubt, and the unrealistic expectations that go with it.
I’m dating someone that I am totally in love with, but their feelings haven’t developed as much for me….and I fear they never will. How do I make myself fall out of love so the pain doesn’t kill me when it’s over?
I am a procrastinator and then I feel guilty about not getting the things done that I am procrastinating about… it is a vicious cycle…
Social anxiety. am terrified of groups of people, feelings of not being good enough, speaking in front of others, no self-confidence, being criticized, people not liking me, etc.
I need help. I have been through ACT therapy with a professional counselor, which has helped, but am still not where I would like to be.
My biggest emotional issue is undoubtedly fear (of failure – or maybe success?) leading to inaction and procrastination. It is easy to convince myself that I can’t do things. Looking silly or feeling a failure is a big source of fear. That means I don’t ask for help when it is needed. I find it difficult to show my emotions for fear of rejection. Help!
Confusion about not knowing what I want. I am trying to find a new career but I feel completely stuck in a dead end. I am very good at telling people what I do not want to do, but when I try to figure out what I do want, my mind goes blank.
Need to learn how to handle stress !
Vicki, exactly! I’m with you there! :(
Still plugging through, just too slow for my comforts, for me. At least I am trying to move forward. :)
Keep working on it! :)
I want to deal with negativity around body image issues.
I really, really need to work on procrastinating about things I’m afraid of. Big, bad things in my life that I critically need to deal with right now — but I panic, hide and procrastinate instead of dealing with them head-on. This problem is going to ruin my life — soon — if I don’t get a handle on it.
Thanks, Morty!
What’s the one area of your emotional life that you’d most like to improve? I have to say after thinking about it, my emotional fear. It has frozen me since the beginning, from being who I really am. I am still trying to figure that out, with your help. :) But, looking back at everything, with all the negative beliefs I have built up within myself (I am my worst enemy, or can beat myself up better than anyone else could, unfortunately), fear has frozen me from breaking down my beliefs and being more open-minded at a young age. I became much more open-minded over time… yet, fear has held me back and pulled me back to a smaller me, if that makes any sense. I always considered myself pretty fearless in things, or at least built up my courage to face some of my fears to see that they really weren’t worth the energy or effort in holding me back. Yet, I keep falling backwards. I am now at rock bottom in life and am trying as quickly as I can to start anew with my entire life. Yet, again, fear, is slowing me down. I think it can explain everything… procrastination, doubts, anger (in the past.. it takes a lot to get me angry now), what my immediate future holds. If I can survive the immediate future consequences, then I there is a true future for me for the next half of my life. :)
Hi Morty,
I lost my mum this year and since then I have been questioning everything in my life. I am set on a career path that I now feel is not right for me, despite promising good pay but in return for selling my time/best years of my life.
I now wish to go back to scientific research, a career I left over 2 years ago in favour of something ‘more stable’. My heart lies in science and finding cures for disease, especially cancer, which my mum suffered from. One of the reasons I didn’t pursue it earlier was due to low confidence and self-esteem. How do I overcome my self-defeating ‘negative talk’ and the negativity of others to pursue my dream job? Fear of changing direction and becoming ‘unemployed’ is stopping me from moving forward. Help!
Morty – thank you for asking about this.
I think we need help with:
* Dealing with compulsive behavior – addictions, overeating, etc.
* Seeking approval from everyone – mom, dad, neighbors, peers
* How not to care what others think or say about you
Bless you for addressing these issues!
I want to stop procrastinating and get on with what needs doing. I tend to leave things till the last minute and then get really angry with myself.
I would like to learn how to identify negative beliefs in myself and remove them without having to rely on an outside party.
Also I procrastinate and would like to not have all the negative feelings that cause me to procrastinate.
how to gain more confidence, let go of grief and loneliness – all brought about after marriage. Loss of confidence brought about by an insulting husband, grief and loneliness by loss of mother. Much love and thanks to you.
To accept the partial “reunion” with my son that I lost to adoption 31 years ago. To not want “more” than he is willing to give.
I also need focus in my life. I plan to retire in a couple of years and need to focus on what my next “career” will be.
I live with PTSD; I have since my youth. I was severely beaten as a child and as a consequence of the abuse contracted this problem. I do pretty well except I am constantly switching jobs and seem on the run always. I’ve always had work but this whole aSpect of my life has me at odds with my spouse much of the time; as you can imagine. She doesn’t feel much security in my pattern of behavior. He point that I always bring pay check home is not enough for her. I can completely understand this. But the behavior continues.
I don’t know what is PTSD,but you have to let go of the past
forgive those who done you wrong and move on may find some new people to hang out with no negative just positive
And you may need to leave that relationship it will be scary but your first step in anything is scary, and that will build your self confidence
A friend
Reducing my conditioned fear and anger . I’ve done much of the confidence course for releasing beliefs (including the conditioning), and it is helping, but I’ve such a habit of anxiety and debilitating fear (which the lefkoe process has already helped me see it is a result of very early conditioning) that keeps me from enjoying life in the way that I would like. On the outside, few people would ever guess that I go around so tense all the time. I am very good at hiding it–because I’ve dealt with it all my life. I am VERY grateful for your processes. Doing them has helped me realize that having this feeling doesn’t make me “bad” or stupid or mean something horrible is wrong with me…it just means I need to take some steps if possible to decondition the intense fear responses I have . I swear if I had the money right now I would already be making in-person and phone appointments with your institute. I am really ready for that change. I have recently been going through a difficult emotional time due to relationship issues and a lot of grieving, so everything is heightened right now and perhaps that is why all my anxiety is showing itself more but I just know there has to be a better way and so much of this has roots in childhood. I was an extremely sensitive kid and took things very very personally.
You need to let go of all does feeling that does not serve yor purpose in life
Find your purpose,find out why am I here
God had put each of us here for a person
And stop living in the past live in the present
How many more programs are you going to buy before you get the help as you said
You need to find your purpose in life and do what you love
A friend
Become more confident communicating with others, improve my self esteem and finally get rid of fear of puplic speaking.
Hey Maria
Also had the fear of public speaking and a friend put me on to Toast Masters International this is a perfect way to gain the abilities you desire, the confidence in public speaking and this will help no end with communication. I can honestly say my public speaking is all down to them.
Good Luck &
Go well
I need more balance in my life. I’m sick of waking up some days, and being able to work, but then many days I just can’t seem to motivate myself properly.
I have no idea what is causing this lack of focus in my life, but I can’t figure it out at all!
Write down the things that you are going to accomplished the night
before
And stick it up where you can see it when you wait up in the morning and do one thing at a time
and don’t move from that first one until you have finished and then you move on to the second thing
We all have 24 hrs in a day use the hrs wisely
Stop stressing about not having a job and not being able to find one. What goes along with this is the stress of the lack of money. Because of the lack of a job, I have started 2 businesses which are out of my comfort zone and I am in the learning curve right now. I am extremely busy, but I haven’t generated anything yet. I realize that this could change at any point. However, I would just like to stop thinking I got to …. I got to…. I got to…. I have forgotten how to relax.
I’m living with a person whose behavior annoys me and I am realizing that it might be my shadow behavior and I need to learn ow to deal with that. What is the best way?
Sorry Rita, but if youre living with a person whose behaviour are really annoyng you, you simply live with the wrong person. To accept all that, would be a real big mistake.
I’m working with two, other sytems……Thanks……..
Allowing myself to show how powerful my soul knows that I am.
I show to the world that I am a confident human being but I am quite capable of easily sabotaging myself.
Reduce the fear of being committed to someone while they may betray you.
Hi Morty, I would most like to improve my impulsivity – especially when I am faced with an unexpected situation.
Hi Morty,
This is a great question – even in my profession, I still find that there is one emotional challenge that continues to visit me and that is: “How can I not allow others’ negativity to get to me so readily?” I feel that I need to somehow strengthen the emotional barrier around my heart so that I can gain better perspective around the negativity and not let it affect me so deeply.
I thank you for your time and assistance with this!
Leah
Hang around more positive people and let go of the negative friends,because they will swallow you up
How do I be happy with myself and not depend on outside world for my happiness.
How to let go of the belief that I have to know what to do before I do something.
Dealing with bullying neigbours who are physically stronger than myself
How can I handle my greif and stop bliaming my self about my faillures?
stress from anxiety. probably from low self esteem regarding my position in life. always feel disappointed in myself and keep getting into depressing situations. anxiety isnt too bad right now though, but i feel like it keeps getting worse. need to get up and do something about it but my mind won’t stay focused. to many depressing thoughts that make me not want to do anything. i need something that will get me off my a$$. a life changing event? maybe i just need to hit rock bottom first.
You need to change the way you think,stop thinking negative thoughts and go out there and do what you love
If you want to be love ,you have to show love
I f you want fiends you have to friendly
Love Friend
Be in control of my anger when it pops up in my life. I tend to get caught up in the anger, and before I know it, I have yelled at someone important to me.
I want to stop to always fall in love the wrong mens….to get attached to them too soon and to not be objectif when i meet them.
First you need to know at you keep attracting the wrong men is because you may have grow up without a father ,or you make need older men in your life to look up to as a father or you don’t know who you are,and it is our responsibility as women to attract what we want in our life and not let some guy do that for us, or your self esteem of yourself is low,or you may need to first fall in love with yourself and get to know your self before getting involved in a relationship
A friend
And the reason y
Thanks Jackie. Believe me, i work on that for years now, …im 43. I made a lots of progress, but its still not as it should be and i know i have to work again on it. Most of times it works well when i meet someone, but sometimes i feel, that m senses are low, i feel alone and i do not analyze well. Then fall into the old behaivour…
Like Samantha, I would like more enthusiasm and focus on doing things that will help me succeed, and also the internal guidance and confidence to know what the right things are for ME to do.
The emotional issue that is on my mind more than anything is the belief that the only way to make money is to work your butt off your whole life. This was my mom’s and dad’s philosophy and I find it hampering my own efforts to make money the way I feel good about doing.
YES! Thank you, Lauren. My parents tried to “help” me by instilling that kind of work ethic, along with several other beliefs that have caused so much more harm than good. My list of money “stuff:”
– It’s wrong to make “easy money.” I must toil endlessly to earn enough just to survive.
– It’s wrong to spend money on things I don’t need. I must save every penny I earn because something terrible could happen at any time.
– All debt is bad.
– It’s never okay to invest your money when there is any sort of risk involved.
– I can’t trust anyone. Everyone has an ulterior motive, usually against my own best interests.
– Everyone else wants only to take my money.
– Rich people are selfish, greedy, and bad.
– I am poor. There is never enough money, and not enough to go around. I got a constant message of “We can’t afford that, and we will never be able to.”
– I’m not capable of handling my own finances.
– It’s wrong to take a day off from work.
– I must do everything my boss tells me to do perfectly or I will get fired.
And then, there’s the body stuff:
– Fat people can’t (be loved, get married, have great lives, etc. etc.)
– Losing weight is incredibly difficult. You must work extremely hard and toil every single day without fail and without breaks, or you might as well not do it at all.
– Fat people are (lazy, gross, etc. etc.)
And…
– Fear of embarrassment
– Never finishing what I start
I would love to see some of these addressed in the individual beliefs programs. Or, if you are considering additional packages, I think you should begin with body image issues and money-related problems. (I keep seeing comments on the blog about people who removed beliefs about money, but I don’t see any related programs in the store..?)
hello dear morty
i feel as if i do not belong, not to my family, not to friends. not to a comunity.
feel left aside.
the belonging
thank you
i had that feeling too for many years and i worked a lots on my self until i realised, that i belong to ME. Inner peace,beeing confident about me and life, having a good self esteem, beeing happy, respect and listen to myself, stoping to be a soul-maso, and so on and on….haha. These were things that helped me so much to find MY way. Hope you find yours, you deseve it!
How to let go of the desperate need for approval, attention affirmation and connection particularly when you have been abandoned, rejected, ignored or feeling lonely.
How do you handle the death of a loved one – it is absolutely devastating – the love of your life after many years is gone –
the emptiness is unbearable.
I want to stop thinking so I can be free!
I want to have focus in my life so I can focus on doing what I need to succeed! Thanks, Samantha