First, thanks to everyone who responded to my survey this week. I was very moved by the responses. They reminded me of how I felt many years ago when I was trying so many things that didn’t help me. I felt as hopeless and frustrated as many of you do today.
#1 by a land slide was fear. So many different things can provoke fear in us. Fortunately, I can show you some powerful methods to eliminate fear that have been proven to work in at least one scientific study. So keep your eye on your inbox as I’ll tell you more in the next few days.
#2 was something that was not an emotion at all. So I was surprised people mentioned it because I asked for emotional issues. It was procrastination. I will show you how to eliminate this problem so you can take action and follow through and finally achieve your full potential.
Originally, I thought I’d only mention the top 2 responses but the third most common response received almost as many mentions as the second, and its impact on people is devastating. So I thought I’d mention it too.
#3 was anger. We’ve helped many people who have been overcome by anger and I know just how to stop this problem. Reducing it’s affect on your life will not only give you peace of mind but improve your relationships with those around you as well.
Second, let’s shift gears for a minute … and let me ask you for more feedback.
Here are my next two questions for you. Feel free to answer either or both of them:
1. What methods of dealing with fear have worked best for you?
2. What methods of dealing with fear have been the biggest disappointment for you?
Fire away with your comments below!
Hi Morty,
You asked recently in an email for us to tell you what we think.
You are brilliant! What I mean by that is that you have realized a very simple way to take care of something that strangles the lives of many people. You are brilliant in that you are keeping it simple. When we complicate things they become less useful. For every onslaught of issues there is a root cause, or heart of the issue. If more people would look at the heart of the problem and find the always simple solution to that problem, all the branches and leaves of issues that grow from that root would be instantly eliminated. When I pull up a weed from my garden (I don’t do this cause they have amazing liver cleansing properties…) the weed is gone! If I go through and pull each individual leaf off in tiny peaces at a time. Hell, that weed is going to grow back by the time I finish one leaf, let alone start “working” on the others.
Thank You, Morty! We need simple answers to body, spirit and mind. I believe you have provided a simple answer to the mind. Okay, gifted people of the world. Let’s find the simple answers that heal our body and spirit! (and of course these things are interrelated)
Hi Becky,
I’m glad you find my belief-elimination process simple and useful.
Have you used the Who am I Really? Process. it is the spiritual component to The Lefkoe Method.
Let me know what you think of it as a way to heal your spirit.
It is at the end of the free beliefs and is a separate program if you purchase any of the belief packages that eliminate specific problems.
Regards, Morty
Hi,
Just thought to share some methods that have helped me overcome fear in my life:
1) The Mind Resonance Process developed by Nick Arrizza, MD. RCC.
The process is fast and powerful and one can get rid of a fear, such as the fear of failure, in minutes.
a) Here is the main link to the method (a free consultation chance):
http://www.telecoaching4u.com/
b) There also is a youtube link where one can go through the method and experience it themselves:
http://www.youtube.com/user/nickarrizza
2) ZPoin Process by Grant Connolly, CHt
It works by reading a command into your subconscious mind (only once) and then choosing a que-word or some other que to activate the healing program. It is another extremely effective and rapid way of releasing fear and also all other negative emotions. It also makes you feel really peaceful after going trhough the process.
a) Here is a link to learn ZPoint and to read the healing program into the subconscious mind:
http://zpointforpeace.wordpress.com/zpoint-quick-tutorial/
b) Here is the main ZPoint site:
http://www.zpointforpeace.com/
c) There also is the possibility of learning about the process by watching a series of youtube videos Grant Connolly has uploaded:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-6kxXnrEv0
3) Faster-EFT, developed by Robert G. Smith, which combines EFT-tapping, NLP, hypnosis & other modalities as well.
a) He shares a lot of valuable content, teaching material and testimonials on his Youtube channel:
http://www.youtube.com/user/HealingMagic
b) The main page for the method:
http://www.fastereft.com/
All of these methods are very simple to use and very powerful at the same time as well.
Happy healing!
Hi Rasmus
Thanks for sharing a bunch of other techniques people might want to look into.
Regards, Morty
the fear is having so many non god fearing leaders who can keep rorting system while the public keep suffering for it as keep allowed to rise all commodities that have injured killed how many since been in power..???
please read all comments to pm treasurer coalation leaders premier as fed up being on the rung of living under the poverty line cause we have so many who can keep wrangling rorting on as fauna earth missing out on so much but these kings leaders ministers dont seem to have vision of the lords heaven of his many mansions!!! as it does state as in heaven so on earth…!!!////*O*\\????
gud sure finding it harder to keep faith hope as struggle on the pittance throw @ us but have to make everything last a fortnight…??
know do it but why should have to when see what these overgrowns can get away with daily….!!!
one angry australian european family friendly gypsy hippy greenpeace activist BUT HAVE NO SAY IN HOW MY HARD EARNINGS SPENT…!!!
SORRY FOR THE RANT BUT EACH DAY ANOTHER ADDED THING THAT JUST TAKING TOLL AS IN CONSTANT NUMB BURNING THROBBING PAIN FROM INJURIES THAT WONT HEAL… BUT HAVE TO KEEP HAVING A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION WHILE THESE HYRACHIES KEEP WASTING OUR PRECIOUS RESOURCES ON SUCH CRUEL NEATHANDRAL MAKES…!!!??? WIRED POLED BEAMS EVES PIPES THAT CORRODE CORROSIVE WHICH LEAKS INTO EARTH… WELDEDS THAT CRUMBLE FALL BLOW UP BUT DEEMED SAFE HEALTHY HYGIENIC PROTECTIN US FROM WAR WEATHER GORE…!!!
COME ON HOW MANY OTHER WAYS ARE WE MEANT TO BE TESTED AS LIFE LEAVES HOW MANY TURNING ON EACH OTHER…???
1.calming down and then to analyse the reason is very useful for me to deal with fear
I’ve been in a bad headspace all day and couldn’t find a way out of it. Just reading these entries has been very soothing. I feel so much better now! Thanks to everyone for sharing and thank you, Morty, for your website!
the our fathers prayer as it states his will be done on earth as it is in heaven so that comforts me emmenselly..!!!
the greatest disappointment is when not heard sure makes me turn inwards & keep on plugging the many mansions in heaven that our father wants here on earth but falling on many deaf ears…!!!!
for me, the best way to deal with fear is to do what you fear from so you can realize that there’s nothing to be scared about.
The Sedona method has worked well for reducing fear, using Holosync has made me less fearfull.
Just facing fears has been a dissapointment for me, I used to throw myself into every situation that I was afraid of or uncomfortable in, hoping that I would grow somehow. The only thing it did was make me able to go into things that I am afraid of, which is good in it’s own right but it didn’t actually eliminate any fears.
Best message I’ve ever heard on fear: Courage is not being without fear. Courage is being scared to death and doing what you need to do anyway. In other words, we all have fear, it’s normal. It’s time we recognize that fact and stop letting fear rule our lives.
1) Just do things. Try and not let fear paralize me.
2) Try and rationalize why is it I’m so insecure and afraid.
Personally I find hypnosis/visualisation is very effective for dealing with my fears. My biggest disappointment was EFT. I wish it would work and I have even tried having professional sessions rather than just doing it myself but the effects are still really short-lived :-(
Hi Ghislaine, I can offer you an EFT session over the phone or through Skype. If you aren’t happy with results I won’t charge you. arodee at eastlink .ca. Sometimes it takes 5 sessions and we would know that after the first. The ability to heal is yours. I am just the coach. When we work on specific issues I am 95% successful. Short lived results mean the practitioner did not do the job of clearing all the aspects or didn’t get to core issues which is often a problem when people aren’t properly trained.
Fear technique that worked wonderfully: The Release Technique
Biggest disappointment: NLP, hypnosis
Answers to the two new questions…
1) I presonally find the most effective method for personally dealing with fear is the understanding that courage is not the absence of fear but rather the ability to act when you feel fear. In addition releasing the fear allows immedate relief (via the Sedona Method), and the fowling video link also helps http://lifelongsuccess.com/blog/overcome
2) Any method where the tatic involves telling yourself over and over that you are being foolish for feeling fear, or only cowards are afraid of this.
hope this helps someone, be well Vince
I just wanted to point out that the Lefkoe Method is the only way I know that actually gets rid of the cause of the problems ONCE AND FOR ALL rather then all those techniques that only treat the symptoms. EFT, meditation, NLP, false forgivness and letter writing, could drastically improve the quality of our lives, but they can’t fix the beliefs that cause the problems.
One more thing. I find that it takes me a while to get to the source of my beliefs. Often times what I think is the source turns out only to be a symptom and I have to dig further back to know what the actual belief is that is causing the problem.
One way to find the belief is to keep asking, “What does that mean”? What belief might cause me to feel this way. What does that mean about ME?
A good indication that you are on the right track is to ask,” In order for me to have experienced this thing as negative, I would have had to already formed the belief otherwise it would have not been important. After a while of doing this, it almost always leads back to my experience with my parents.
Although it seems like an excuse to blame parents, it’s not. It’s just that are parents had the biggest hand in shaping our views of life in general.
If anyone here would like help finding the source of your negative belief, please let me know. email: teraangelgirl@gmail.com I have eliminated close to a hundred now and I know for certain that this works where others have failed.
I usually handle fear by stopping and breathing slowly, and getting present to everything around me. Then when I am calm enough, I get more control. It works to stop fear but it doesn’t always make my situation more pleasant.
It is in the Bible:::
James–5-6-7-8—
It is hard….To overcome FEAR…
Dear Morty,
when I have some fearful thought, I tell myself first,this is only a thought, it’s not going to happen.
If however something bad is going to happen, I can’t do anything by worrying about it, if it happens I will face it.
Worrying about it only makes me feel upset.
I convince myself that everything will be fine, and think about something else.
May be a little fear is still there but it’s under control.
Best way of dealing with fear and any other kind of problem: Meditation. Not just superficial a few minutes a day or an hour now and then, but Vipassana meditation, a free 10 day course. Just look it up on the internet.
It’s not an easy course to do, but if you make the effort it will somehow make a very profound change to your life, to your whole being. I have had severe aragnophobia for as far as I can remember, just seeing the tiniest of spiders would send me in a panic attack. I did the Vipassana meditation course for a lot of other reasons and never even thought of spiders, but to my great surprise, after doing two courses I’m no longer afraid of spiders, no more than I am of poisonous snakes or crocodiles, healthy dose of self preservation fear, but no panic attacks, nothing unreasonable.
I truely recommend this as a way to deal with any problem any fear, any kind of issue in your life. It really works, not only for me, I heard from many others that it worked for them too.
Hi Morty,
Best way I’ve dealt with fear is a two step process – first I ask if it’s a physical or mental threat; then, if it’s mental I ask what can I do to get myself one step closer to the desired outcome. I truly believe in the one step at a time process – it works consistently for me.
I’ve also noticed that when I ask what kind of threat it is – and it’s mental the issue behind it comes up and I can confront it. Most of my fear these days stem from years of abuse at the hands of parents/partner who had narcissistic personality disorder and made me believe that I wasn’t worthy.
Deep breathing also helps.
What doesn’t help is “just feel the fear and do it anyway” because sometimes there is a reason for the fear – it is trying to warn me of something. Like the time I felt incredible fear about mailing a book to a publisher. Turns out – there were a LOT of typos and some were really bad!!
Fear is a warning – sometimes it’s good, and I remember that as I analyze the situation. Knowing myself really helps!
Thanks for the advice, and I am looking forward to seeing your next blog.
It depends on the type /object of fear. I’m sure nothing compares to Morty’s methods, thank you Morty! Nevertheless, these are strategies I have used in the past:
– For low intensity type, more like disinclination towards an action, such as jumping into a cold water swimming pool, concentrate ever more intensely on the reasons (positives) of the feared action. Once you feel your genuine attraction/interest increase due to your concentration (not just rational understanding of any theoretical benefits), taking action is much easier. If you do get the reward you were looking for, then the next time less effort will be needed until it becomes a habit and then a pleasure (the feared action has been conditioned with the reward). This experience happened to me after a lifetime of hating pools. Watching my daughter’s
beautiful free style stride I became intrigued with the rythm of breathing to both sides, which I didn’t and couldn’t do. Just the curiosity of trying was enough to overcome the aversion to dive in until it became an effortless habit. Incredibly, this is something that I now enjoy doing. The key is the genuine interest beyond the feared action.
– For medium intensity type, such as fear to start a conversation in a social setting, or confronting a medium risk situation, starting with very little steps and saying to yourself “I can do it, I can do it….” faster and faster , “spinning it”, until you just do it. Then add bigger steps, learning all the time, and concentrate on the reasons as in the preceding paragraph. If you have a setback, go back one level. Results are important.
– For high intensity type, such as fear of public speaking….Morty’s method is great, as usual. Other than that, try to get interested in what is happening right there at that moment. The curious way your voice quivers, or your heart beats, if that’s all you can be aware of, may be interesting. Assuming you have done your homework and you have actually something to say, or an authentic interest to share an experience, you have a chance to forget your fear and start performing.
-If it is is something passive what you fear, something that may happen to you or a loved one without your control, ultimately fear of death or worse, or a frightening thing, the most effective is love of yourself Love yourself being fearful and the fear softens; if you are in a spiral, then take any kind of positive demanding action, it’s like alter the things you can, and put up with those you can’t, but I do not know how to go effectively to the roots of fears of things we cannot control. Talking to somebody I respect and think wise always helps me.
– The least efficient methods for general fears for me have been rational analysis and nlp techniques. I think fear responds to psychological needs that cannot be fooled easily .
Thanks Morty again for all what you give us.
Morty – thanks for requesting this feedback.
1. I try to remember: “You’re going to be dead soon anyway. :-) So, might as well give it a shot.” and “No one really cares if you fail.”
2. Holosync (brainwave meditation) has helped me tremendously. I highly recommend it – it increases awareness and focus.
Thank you!
Marina
What works best for me is not to think of the future. I can have courage now, the immediate present. I do not have enough courage for tommorrow or the next moment. I am old enough now to know things are seldom as bad or as good as I will think they will be.
The worst for me is imagine the worse case scenerio. It does nothing to to calm my fears. I have a great imagination and my worse case scenerios are nothing I would want ot experience.
What really changed the way I viewed myself and the world was when I studied lifecoaching. A brilliant part was when I uncovered beliefs and knocked the legs from under them… A bit like what you do on the natural confidence programme. Getting rid of the beliefs which don’t serve us is key definitely. We have all these ideas about ourselves and the people around and we never question where these ideas come from and believe that they are the absolute truth. Digging away at these just let’s you be free. Meditation I have found is also a great help such as the Lifeflow programmes which use brainwave technology and the Sedona Method is great for just allowing yourself to let go of stuff.
Usually I find a little bit of something can be gleaned from all sources and what works for one might not be effective for another. I sincerely hope you all find freedom within youselves and the peace and the joy you all deserve.
#1 – The methods of dealing with fear that worked the best was using Hypnosis, both with someone and by myself, and other visualization-like techniques. All of these enable me to better cope with the fear in the moment, make a decision I was apprehensive to do, and clear my head for the moment. But most of the time the fear would come back later. It’s like removing the symptom, but the cause is still there. Of course, doing Morty’s Lefkoe Method with either Shelly or through the Natural Confidence Program has been a huge help too.
#2 – Being told to just ignore it, or just take action in spite of it has never helped. The whole idea of “feel the fear and do it anyway” really has never worked for me. I may try it, or force myself to do the thing I’m afraid of, but sometimes that experience is so emotionally painful that it makes me never want to take that action again. EFT and affirmations worked a little bit, but not as much as I was hoping.
Take the next step. That’s been the most effective technique for me. Not instant. But with a lot of steps you go miles and miles. I’m remembering when the Danish cartoon was published and Muslims erupted en masse in rage. It made no sense. Yet my colleagues and my students (I’m a college prof) en masse accepted the prevalent Muslim position. I took tiny step after tiny step taking against this, showing how it made no logical sense, that a religion which was not protesting mass murder by Muslims of other Muslims should protest against a tiny cartoon. Anyway I’ve ended up, not only talking in my classes, but with a website with loads of articles on this – and with much less fear in my life.
Great question. I am currently reading your book, “ReCreate Your Life”. My 27 year old son who still lives at home and he went through the DVD process of eliminating two beliefs and Who are you Really?
The one thing that worked the best was self-hypnosis; I listened to a cassette tape in which I recorded my voice repeating the affirmations. Worked great. Kaizen, the Japanese philosophy of taking small steps, uses such tiny steps that it bypasses the fear reaction. The biggest disappointment I’ve experienced is ALL the books that offered adivice without a practical method to achieve the end results or where I did exercises to clarify an issue, but I rarely had an “ah-ha, wow!” moment. I did Dr. Phil’s Self-Matters several years ago, digging up my past which did help some…I wrote the letter to the person I held responsible the most and burned it. I suppose this was to “cremate” the past and offer forgiveness. Then, he states, Now, put your schedule-Personal, Work, Family, Spiritual, etc., into cateogories. It was very disappointing that he just assumed that since you went through the process everything would be better; it wasn’t. I felt like I was suspended between hope and resolution without a means to bridge the two sides. I’m tired of bits and pieces and want something that gets to the nitty-gritty. Thank you, Morty, for all your work and I hope the world wakes up enough to do a whole world belief elimination. It is needed more than anything. Love and Light
I have no effective way of dealing with it. I try to avoid it by procrastinating, or just being lazy and not ‘looking’ at what needs doing. Truly it cripples me, I can be afraid of being rejected by a friend or in a relationship and it actually causes me to feel so unworthy and defeated that I will avoid cooking supper or doing dishes or even getting out of the chair until bedtime. This is not an effective method. It’s just the only one I know.
What works: talking through what I fear with a family member (I’m the youngest, so sharing with someone who has more wisdom and experience helps). The problem always seems much smaller than it did in my head.
What doesn’t: trying to not be afraid. It just doesn’t work. It’s like trying to not think of purple elephants, or the color green. Those are silly expamples, but my mind automatically thinks about what I’m trying hard not to think about.
Diversion is a wonderful way to find temporary relief. I suggest, if you have not succeeded in releasing fear with EFT, you might try a different practitioner. I also prescribe Ho’oponopono for my clients with great success. I work over the phone and internet. fear, like anything else is just an idea, a memory shared with our ancestors. When we take 100% responsibility for everything that comes in to our awareness and give it over to a higher power fear will release. It is simple but not easy to overcome the habit of being afraid. EFT and Ho’oponopono are very effective at helping you to change the way you look at things. Al Rodee.com
Just want to add, another great method for fear that works well is Morry method, brainwave entrainment.
Most effective so far is Diversion, dont even give the fear a “second” to analyze or think about it, as soon as fear comes up divert mind to anything. This takes effort tho and finding an effective diversion is not easy, but diversion to do work. Done many methods available eft, tat, nlp, hypnosis all with professional, but none of method cures the fear itself , only briefly the fear is down but always come back. For me EFT and TAT bring up the fear easily but ridding the cause was not effective, but it can work for other things just not so well for fear . NLP and hypnosis great for getting rid of baggages but for the fear itself, not effective. Diversion is so far the best but too much attention needed to put in to divert and takes time.
The biggest disappointments are cognitive behaviour therapy, and rationalization. Both dont get any resolution just frustration.
Hi Joyce — You can heal fear with E.F.T. if you get to the roots — the original experiences which created the fear. This can take some hunting around, but Gary Craig says that if you find maybe a half dozen original incidents relating to the same fear, you can cure it. I have found this to be so myself.
Hi Ethan,
Thank you for your feedback, but i tried EFT for some time (few months) with diff practitioner, but it didn’t work and even the practitioner told me the same.
Hi Raven — Don’t worry too much about set-up statements if you’re having trouble with them. Gary Craig had tremendous success with E.F.T. for years before someone else came up with the idea of set-up statements. Just run through the tapping points, keeping your awareness on the feeling or the issue that you want to heal.
I would like to learn more about academic trauma – having had an experience so devastating, that it has impeded all progress.
Helped; anxiety medication but this is a short term fix for a long term problem. I am trying EFT and TAT, however, it is hard to figure out the set up statements without help and private sessions are too expensive, I am on disability.
Holding myself and repeating affirmations. Recuse Remedy by Bach flower. Stress Relief by King Bio. Theta brain wave CD. Being in a loving supportive relationship. Having enough money to get massage, and the remedies I need. CD’s that balance my brain work best but so far it is a short term remedy and does not get to the core issue.
NO real help- Valerian- made it much worse. Passion Flower, CBT, talk therapy. Valium, Zanax , Klonopin give short term relief and they are better than a sugar pill, however they are highly addictive and your body develops a tolerance to them. I believe balancing the brain is the answer.
Inositol is a B vitamin. It helps me with anxiety. It’s also a good idea to take the other B vitamins. You may need the expertise of a nutritionist to find the best form of B vitamins.
Thanks, Mary, I am on Inositol as well as Gabba. The expertise of nutritionist cost more then I or most people on disability can afford. So, we research, use trial and error and ask for guidance and sometimes we find the right combination I am still on that journey. Thanks
Best to Deal with Fear: meditation and simply allowing myself to notice my fear as it comes up, recognize it and fully accept the fear. I’ve also spent time exploring where my fear comes from and having understood now that it comes from experiences in my youth I am more understanding of myself for the way I react to certain situations. I would not say my fear is gone, though, and I believe eliminating more beliefs would help me.
Biggest Disappointment: This process has not rid me of my fear nor has counseling. Yes, I understand and accept my fear, but it is still not gone and my counselor does not seem to have any methods for consciously working to work through my fear until it is gone. She largely recommends that I realize my fear is understandable given my history and for me to feel that my feelings of fear are ‘normal’. This has sometimes led me to questioning whether it is reasonable for me to want to consciously work to rid myself of my fear/anger/etc. because my counselor does not seem to think it is important. I disagree.
My biggest success in dealing with fear to date has been E.F.T. — although I must say that since doing your Natural Confidence program, Morty, which I did last week, my overall fear level has been greatly reduced. I have learned over the years to be pretty assertive in group situations, both as a leader and participant, but I always still had some feeling of “Oh geez, I can’t interrupt that guy” or “I don’t want to make other people feel bad by taking up space or expressing myself clearly and powerfully.” That’s TOTALLY gone now. It’s not that I run rough-shod over people, I just step up when it’s appropriate. I’m not hiding my light under a bushel!
EFT sounds pretty cool. I have never heard of it before today, but I went to a web site and read about it. I’m open to any technique’s that can help people eliminate fears and phobias. Also I agree that prescription drugs should be considered carefully, they’re a slippery slope.
I’ve used EFT and SET (Simple Energy Technique) both for clients and for myself. Like any other treatment it can be used as a “band aid” or as a holistic healing technique.
Procrastination is interesting and I’m very familiar with it. I’m not sure if it is a problem or the response to a problem! I think there’s something deeper, not quite understood.
Similar with Overwhelm!
All The Best Morty
Alex
As a full time EFT practitioner I totally agree with the comments above about EFT. I have seen so many people heal by using EFT. it is very gratifying. If you let Morty know, I have a program on using EFT to eliminate limiting beliefs. Perhaps we could partner on it.
Another thought; please think twice before taking Xanax or any other prescription for depression or anxiety. They are being proven no more beneficial than sugar pills for mild depression and are highly addictive.
What works best for me is to use guided imagery techniques in a loose sort of meditative way. I ask for an image of what the fear is and talk with it. Usually I am able to quickly connect with an unresolved part of myself and acknowledge it’s needs or simply be present with it. Often, this alone will result in the fear dissipating completely.
What doesn’t work is having people (or myself) tell me my fear is irrational or rediculous and that I should “just let it go”.
Best way to deal w fear: a combo of self talk and my spiritual beliefs; reliance on a Higher power. It helps to see that I am creating the scary thought myself; for some reason, I am creating the drama, and this leads to the question: Is this what I want?
Least effective: Appealing to my rational mind.
Pari,
I to have had to deal with panic attacks, even though it was years ago I can share with you what helped me the most. Firstly, at the onset of a panic attack you must try very hard to switch your mind from fear to something else, if you can do this the panic will immediately start to subside. One technique is to recite something in your head like the names of presidents, something that forces you to think. So when you feel panic coming start thinking Washington, Lincoln, Roosevelt, Hoover, name as many presidents as you can. Or you could try to name as many states as you can, anything to get your mind off panic. Also it would help me to remember that NO ONE has ever died from a panic attack. Xanax helps too, but flipping the thoughts in my mind worked best for me.
I can understand procrastination as being an emotional issue. People procrastinate for different reasons, one being fear; fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, and so far. I’ve procrastinated on completing my second manuscript because I fear it’s not good enough, or I’m not good enough.
Thanks,
1- Rationalizing it. I ponder wether the object of fear is a real threat for my physical integrity. If not, I jump in even if it feels like I’ll poop my pants. It usually happens sin social situations, where teh fear is based on social approval of my behavior.
2- The drawback of applying rationalization is that even tough I face teh fear, I sweat and my hands shake as if I had parkinson, wich makes it obvious that I’m about to have a nerve breakdown. I wish I could get rid of those physicval symptoms of fear when I’m facing them.
BTW, I’m brazilian and my wife is a psychologist who studied cognitive therapy a bit, but she has a lot of limiting beliefes she could busrt. Not only her, but plenty of people I know could get a lot of value from your work. Unfortunately, most of them do not understand spoken english enough to use it. I wish I could translate your work to portuguese. IF you are interested, let me know.
homeopathic treatment
Arg Nit 200c specifically
especially panic attacks and general anxiety disorder accompanied by a craving for sweets. I am a different person
I’d like to caveat my above statement. the way I wrote that could be misinterpreted. I didn’t mean that the results of EFT are short-lived. It is helpful for many many many people and has been helpful for me with other issues. I meant, rather, that my use of aacupressure and other relaxation tools in the moment of fear are helpful in that moment but that the fear feeling comes back eventually. I have not done EFT a whole whole lot, but the results of EFT are very good, and long lasting, for many people–so I wanted to make sure I was clear on that so as not to dissuade anyone from EFT, as it seems a valuable tool for many
#1. Things that have helped me most dealing with fear–self-talk. in other words, reminding myself of any reason I can get through a particular experience in life because I have already made it through some harrowing experiences (and was once diagnosed with ptsd because of some of those). Another, perhaps unusual, method that has helped is…confronting that emotion head on and smiling at it. By smiling at it I dont mean pretending it is not there, but weathering it byintentionally increasing my inner light and re-affirming my belief that the energy of love is more important. doing so takes a lot of energy and is exhausting, however. Another way, is to handle the physical symptoms–I use accupressure, deep breathing and EFT to try to alleviate some of the physical symptoms. Unfortunately, those are all short-lived. I’d much rather eliminate the root and not have to waste time and energy dealing with that paralyzing feeling .
#2. the method of dealing with fear that has been the most disappointing for me is cognitive behavioral therapy and psychoanalysis. Although in some ways it was helpful years ago to hear a therapist say “oh, well you were abused, don’t you see? that is why you have some of this coming up now.” all that did was make me feel like a victim and did not empower me and actually re-inforced my feeling that I was weird or something was permanently wrong with me.
1. The most effective way I’ve found to deal with fear, is to directly encounter the fear. First, I sit in Vipasana meditation or insight meditation for half an hour. Second, I perform the task or face the situation that I’m fearing. Ie. a job interview.
2. The least effective way, for me, is reading self-help books or “happy talk”. These are only delaying tactics or a type of procrastination.
For us, EFT works well, especially because we work on it as a pair. The manual can be downloaded at no cost from emofree.com/ where there are numerous case histories to consult, by catagorie: phobias are very responsive. For panic attacks, best results perhaps taking a session or 2 with an EFT professional, there are many, in every city, and by phone; a practitionaer that you can phone might be really usefull if a panic attack comes back unexpectedly.
TAT works well too on the underlying “hidden” causes. The Manual is also downloadable from the site tatlife.com/, and a mini-video to show how: ultra-simple, but profound! Her newsletter is good too.
PROCRASTINATION!
I believe it’s the most threatening issue to most people. But isn’t it aligned with FEAR? Fear of failure…Fear of success…Fear of what other’s think??
I know I have that issue but I consciously fight through it at times but wish it was something I didnt’ have to deal with…
I can’t wait to hear how to can eliminate it.
-Lu
Absolutely agree. I’ve been working my way through the Natural Confidence program here which seems to focus a lot on fear and yes, procrastination is disappearing….
Best to deal with fear: joining martial arts clubs. Fearless group.
Unhelpful: jumping into doing what I am afraid of (as the thoughts havent changed, this only works briefly)
I would like to know a bout panic attack.When I am alone at home
specially at night
Hi Pari,
I don’t know if this would help you but when my ex-husband had panic attacks, massages is what helped him, either I gave him one mostly on his shoulders or if he was by himself, we had one of those long handled massagers and he would give himself a massage. Thanks
Gina