When people know they don’t know something and they want to know about that something, they learn about it. So if you know that your relationships could be better, that it is possible stop worrying about the opinions of others, and that it is possible to eliminate the beliefs that keep you from being more successful in life—and you want to make improvements in these areas—you have several choices. You can search on Google to find out where to get help. You can ask friends what they did. You can read books and take courses. Etc.
But what if you think that relationships can’t get any better than what you already have … even if yours is not very good? What if you think that everyone is worried about what others think of them and that it’s human nature to need to be liked and accepted by others? And what if you think that beliefs can’t be eliminated permanently or that you will never be successful, not matter how hard you try? Such people are not looking for a solution because they don’t think one exists. Actually it’s worse than that: far too many people don’t even realize that there is anything wrong.
In other words, if you don’t know that there is something better in life and that you can achieve it, then you will not even search for it.
People don’t look for what they don’t know exists
Hardly anyone searches for someone to help her permanently eliminate beliefs because most people think that is impossible. No one searches for someone to help them de-condition stimuli that cause negative feelings (such as anxiety and anger) because hardly anyone knows that such feelings are can be the result of conditioning and that de-conditioning will get rid of the emotions. And no one searches for a way to stop giving meaning to moment-to-moment events—thereby eliminating most stress and emotional suffering in their lives—because hardly anyone knows that that is possible.
The best example of people not searching for what they don’t know is possible is the experience people have when they do the Who Am I Really? (WAIR?)Process. That Process enables people to make a distinction between themselves as the “creator” and as a “creation.” They get that they are not their beliefs, nor are they the behavior and feelings that come from those beliefs. People who use WAIR? experience that who they really are is the creator of those beliefs, or, putting it more accurately, who they (actually, who all of us) really are is non-dual consciousness. As a result they have the profound experience that they are not the events of their lives, they are the creator of their lives, and, as such, there is nothing missing, anything is possible, and they have no limitations. I doubt that anyone ever searches Google for how to get that experience.
Unfortunately, people don’t search for the most profound experiences in life because they don’t know that these experiences exist. Moreover, for many of those who do have a sense that such experiences might possibly exist, there is a sense that they will never find a way to have them.
Change you never thought possible was possible
So here is my message to you this week: Profound, fundamental change is possible. It is possible to live a joyous, exciting, fulfilling life. It is possible to dissolve negative feelings in an instant by dissolving the meaning you have given the events in your life. It is possible to permanently eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that cause most of the problems in your life. It is possible to experience yourself as the creator of your life, with nothing missing and anything being possible.
There may be beliefs and conditionings in the way, you may feel unhappy due to the meaning you give to daily events (your occurrings), eating may be your conditioned response to a number of triggers, you may not have what you want in certain aspects of your life, you may experience anxiety much of the time, and you may have any one of a number of common, everyday problems (such as procrastination, lack of confidence, and constant stress) … and it is possible to overcome all of these and live a really great life
I know, because my life was a total mess for over 50 years and now it is bliss almost all of the time. (Yes, I currently am dealing with what my doctors are calling Lymphoma, but I am not giving that diagnosis any meaning and I am confident that in a few months I will return to my normal state of health.) And I am not the only one who has achieved this state. Please don’t ever give up the possibility that your life can be all you’ve ever dreamed it could be—and, even more importantly, much more than those dreams. It can be
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this is awesome really awesome.. thanks..
This message is right on time for this morning…
“Please don’t ever give up the possibility that your life can be all you’ve ever dreamed it could be—and, even more importantly, much more than those dreams. It can be”
I’m grateful!
Morty, here is my opinion on what you should do: I think you might be the only person who can figure out how to make the LBP work for every single person on earth, whether visual, emotionally kinesthetic, or maybe some type of person we don’t even know about yet. Anyone can spread the LBP and your ideas around the world; expert marketers, business types, normal people through word of mouth, etc. But I think maybe only you could understand people enough to figure out how to actually make the LBP truly work for every person. If that happened, it would be revolutionary. I think the LBP will have a greater chance of catching on if it works for every person who earnestly tries it. Some people will probably get turned off if they hear about mixed results with it (it not working for some people).
So basically, this is just a suggestion for you to focus your efforts on troublesome cases where people can’t seem to eliminate beliefs for some reason (or people eliminate beliefs and they ”come back,” which I have a hunch means they were actually never eliminated). I’m definitely biased when I say this (because I am one of those people it doesn’t work for, and I really wish I could get it to work), but I still think it’s the best use of your unique skills and creativity. I’ve known about your process for years, since I was around 15 or so, and I tried over and over to get the LBP to work for me, but I could never eliminate my beliefs, so I’ve been stuck in social anxiety and depression.
Anyway, you have no obligation of course. But you really have done a lot of good for the world and we’re all thankful for that, and if you could find a way to help people like me, it would really change my life and so many others. Thank you Morty and I wish you the absolute best, you make the world a better place.
Hi Danielle,
If you have been unable to eliminate beliefs using the LBP, I suspect you are kinesthetic. I have written several blog posts explaining this and announced a new process specifically for such people. It has been very effective in permanently eliminating beliefs for kinesthetic people.
https://www.mortylefkoe.com/mistakes-to-breakthroughs/
I suggest you try it with a couple of your beliefs and let me know how it goes.
Thanks for the suggestion. I am constantly trying to figure out why one of our processes doesn’t work for a given person and most of our processes now work for most people. And I continue to work on it.
Love, Morty
Thanks Morty. I didn’t mean to sound all negative (although you probably didn’t take it that way since you don’t give meaning and all), my overall message was just that, I think if the process works for every person, it will kind of spread itself. Then the whole world would be able to use it. Basically that marketing at this stage isn’t that important, what is important is just working out the processes and ideological stuff, and the rest will fall into place. Anyway, I hope you are doing really well, and thanks for everything as always. And thanks for reading/replying. :)
Also, I will try the belief eliminating process again (the newer one) and see how it goes. I tried it once before maybe a year ago, but I might have been distracted during it or some other problem, anyway I’m gonna try it again as soon as I can and try to work it out. I’ll let you know if I’m successful. :)
Sorry for the double post. My screen didn’t refresh and I thought there was a glitch in the system.
It’s better to post that twice than not at all.
Thank you and I wish you good health Morty.
Morty,
You are awesome for coming up with this superbly effective and transformative process. And for remaining blissful with your disease and being able to share such amazing articles with us.
I believe that the reason that you haven’t put huge marketing effort into making your massively valuable method more widely recognized is that you’ve eliminated your core as well as your survival strategy beliefs, the ones that make a ‘high achiever’. Without that burning desire to compensate for a subconscious feeling of something missing, there is little drive to truly ‘push’ one’s method through relentless marketing.
I’d like to encourage you, regardless, to consider the effects that some cutting edge, consistent and committed marketing efforts would have on the well-being of the planet’s population by reducing suffering and introducing people to the truth of who they are. Because people are not aware of what is possible unless we, who have been on the other side, take them by the hand and guide them there. You are one such liberator of your fellow humans and I wish you can find ways to maximize your potential while you are still with us, for the benefit of all.
Morty,
You are awesome for coming up with this superbly effective and transformative process. And for remaining blissful with your disease and being able to share such amazing articles with us.
I believe that the reason that you haven’t put huge marketing effort into making your massively valuable method more widely recognized is that you’ve eliminated your core as well as your survival strategy beliefs, the ones that make a ‘high achiever’. Without that burning desire to compensate for a subconscious feeling of something missing, there is little drive to truly ‘push’ one’s method through relentless marketing.
I’d like to encourage you, regardless, to consider the effects that some cutting edge, consistent and committed marketing efforts would have on the well-being of the planet’s population by reducing suffering and introducing people to the truth of who they are. Because people are not aware of what is possible unless we, who have been on the other side, take them by the hand and guide them there. You are one such liberator of your fellow humans and I wish you can find ways to maximize your potential while you are still with us, for the benefit of all.
Hi Lav,
First of all know that you are wonderful and unique and to believe you are lacking is THE most destructive belief in the world.
Secondly, it is never about what HE does. You be loving and you will always feel good.
Thirdly, you DO get to say no. You need healthy boundaries. Not just this person but all people try to get what they want from others by accusing others of selfishness [or something] for not letting them walk over them. Don’t fall for it.
Fourth, understand victimhood. Victimhood states, “I feel bad and it’s YOUR fault.” It is never someone else’s fault how I feel! I create my own subjective state by my beliefs. I am in charge. I have the power. Take back your power, Lav.
Hi Lav
I’ve just ended a relationship with someone who sounds very like that. There wasn’t any way at all for me to ever be right or ok in this person’s eyes no matter how much I ever did or how hard I ever tried. Everything I did was conveniently forgotten and in his mind he was the one who did everything and paid for everything and I did nothing.
Whenever I argued back I was accused of shouting and I was wrong again. It was soul destroying for me and I eventually left when I realised that leaving was the only solution, since unless this person decided to change, nothing would change except my own mental health…for the worse.
Hello Morty,
Firstly, I wish you great health. I’d like to talk about the narcissist. Does this person think that they are always right, and therefore think they can do no wrong? I live with a narcissist who on many occasions has done many things wrong only to blame others. I.e. Shouting at them and then when he gets shout at back, he will shout “Why are you shouting at me?” It’s a very confusing way of living because it instills low self-belief because one always questions themselves when the other party always believes they are in the right, even when logically it doesn’t seem that way. What should I do to confront the narcissist about his behaviour, or at least increase my own self-belief so I don’t question myself after an attack from the narcissist. Many thanks.
Hi Morty,
Things have become so much calmer in my mind and in my life since I completed your Natural Confidence course, and I was one of those that knew there was a blockage in feeling confident and free to choose in life but didn’t know where it came from and didn’t think it could improve so dramatically in such a short space of time.
I’ve done loads of courses but this is the simplest, most logical and most miraculous one I’ve done by far.
I had what I remember to be quite a blissful childhood with parents who always had my best interests at heart so I certainly didn’t think I had loads of whacky beliefs in my head from then, but I definitely had put some very limiting stuff in there! I had loads of wow moments while doing the course and one where I was pretty cross with myself for limiting myself so much for so long.
I’m so much calmer and more confident,
Thank you thank you thank you
Hi Morty,
I hope this doesn’t get too long, but I stumbled upon your belief elimination program a few years back and felt it wouldn’t work. It couldn’t work. But today I gave it another shot and I was amazed that I actually removed a belief. Something that was deemed impossible or incredibly difficult in my mind.
I’ve been struggling with social anxiety and depression for years now. When I went to my mom for advice when I was younger she told me it was our family curse and instead of fighting it all the time I should learn to live with it. It was just how I was “wired”. I knew deep down this couldn’t possibly be the ultimate truth and it was that deep conviction that kept me on a path of constant questioning about other things in life as well.
I’m not past all my issues yet, but I have hope that one day things will be better than I could imagine. In my darkest days I could never believe that, not for a second. I think that’s the worst place to be in life. I truly wish everyone could see past that darkness whenever they come upon it. But it’s hard to believe it if you’ve never truly lived it. Speaking from my own personal experience the Lefkoe Method just seemed to good to be true because I always had it pounded into my head that life is hard work and nothing comes easy.