While the phrase “a new paradigm” is over used and misused, there are no more appropriate words to describe the changes in the way that I view reality since we began unraveling the tangled mass of belief systems that I had developed since childhood. I no longer struggle with the desire to take control of my life and the feeling that I can’t. Today I am exercising control of my life because I am the creator of my belief systems. The correlation between what I believe and where I am is very clear. Where I am today is the direct consequence of my decisions and actions of the past; my behavior. My behavior is directly dependent on what my perception of reality is. And my perceptions are merely my belief systems. As I began to change my belief systems, I began to act and feel differently. This has had the immediate consequence of causing me to make different decisions which has lead to different results in where I am today compared to three months ago. My biggest struggle today is choosing which course will best accomplish my immediate and long term goals.
Of course a real change in a person’s life is measured by more than our feelings. I recently ran a P&L on my business for the last 12 weeks and compared it to the same time period for last year. My sales are up 29% but more importantly my net profit is up 200%. By eliminating the belief systems that were developed by an abused and neglected child and developing the belief systems of a healthy and mature adult, I have been able to make choices in my life that are getting me the results that I want in my life.
I have begun working on my first book and plan on having it finished by the end of the year. I have also begun to make long term plans for my business and my life which makes each day an exciting experience as I watch for opportunities to make things happen. But some of the most surprising changes have occurred in my personal life. Since this is the second marriage for my wife and I, we have both worked at making a strong and happy relationship. However, as my life has been changing these last few months I have been sharing with her not only the results but using the techniques to help her work through her own belief systems. Together we have been experiencing the same paradigm shift, individually and as a couple. The result has been that I have found myself experiencing a pleasure being married that has made every aspect of our life more enjoyable and rewarding. And I do mean ‘every’ aspect.
All of this has caused me to look in amazement at where I am now compared to the first of the year when I was seriously considering changing careers and feeling very depressed about ever accomplishing the goals that I have so earnestly sought for so many years. Like others you have helped I have wished that I could have learned this years earlier. But I can choose to believe that I have lost ‘something’ because I did not have this knowledge before, or I can choose to believe that the timing is perfect and the future will be everything I want it to be. Since I’m going to believe something, I might as well choose what I believe and I choose to believe today is the best timing for where I am.
I sincerely appreciate your passion and commitment to help me and others make our lives better for ourselves and those around us. I don’t think you could ever know how many people you will have touched over the years by your efforts.