The swallowtail caterpillar is a pudgy creature that spends all day nibbling leaves. It should be an easy meal for a bird, but many birds pass it up.
They avoid this creature because it fools them into thinking it’s a snake. It has concentric circles on its back. When a bird gets close, the caterpillar puffs itself up causing the circles to look like eyes and its head to look like a snake’s head. An incoming bird quickly changes course and finds easier prey.
The swallowtail caterpillar’s strategy causes birds to flee with little effort from the worm-like creature. Similarly, when we want to generate alternative interpretations to eliminate beliefs, we don’t have to struggle. We can deploy four simple questions to find our way.
What are the four questions?
Who? What? When? And Where?
These questions are surprisingly useful in creating alternative ways to interpret the events that led to a belief.
To use them, you ask the question, listen to the client’s answer, then build an alternative interpretation out of what they give you.
For example, one client had the belief “If I make a mistake or fail, I’ll be rejected.” He formed the belief because as a kid his parents would get angry with him if he did something they thought was wrong. To help him come up with alternative interpretations, I asked him these four questions.
Guiding a client into creating alternative interpretations in this way makes the process feel more real to clients. And as a result of these questions, he was able to flow through the rest of the process fairly easily.
But if I already know some good alternative interpretations, do I have to ask all these questions?
The short answer is no. If you can create them without using questions, go ahead and do so. However, it often gets the client more deeply involved in the process when you guide them with questions. And if you are eliminating beliefs on your own, you may find that it helps you when you’re feeling stuck too.
Summary
- The four questions that help you generate alternative interpretations are: Who, What, Where, and When.
- Using them can make the process more real to clients and can even help you get unstuck if you’re eliminating beliefs on your own.
- To use these four questions, ask, listen, then build an alternative interpretation using what the client gives you.
Using questions to create alternative interpretations often helps people to feel that they own the process more than if they are merely given to them. So try using these four questions with yourself or people you work with. You may find that they make eliminating beliefs easier.
How To Regain Your Natural State Of Confidence
When you set a challenging goal, does a little voice creep in, asking, “Can I really do this?” Do you get a little nervous, worried you’ll fail in some way? Do you feel that you are not really moving ahead with full force but instead are driving with the brakes on?
When that inner voice of doubt is silenced, and you feel truly confident, you take action. You follow through. You feel like a train moving at full steam ahead with nothing in your way but the air. Life becomes an adventure.
How do we get to this place of living free of the inner doubts that plague so many of us?
One answer is the Natural Confidence Program.
When learning to walk, we keep trying no matter how often we fall. And we fall hundreds of times. Yet somehow, as we grew older, we learned to give up after just a few dozen tries. We doubt ourselves. We hesitate. We may even have learned not to take risks at all. When you eliminate the beliefs in this program, you’ll find that you reclaim the confidence we were all born with. You reclaim your persistence. You reclaim the optimism of a child.
See for yourself here: www.NaturalConfidenceProgram.com
