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I want to deeply thank the hundreds of you who shared intimate details about how your lives have been run by your fears and anger. Your stories were unbelievably honest and incredibly moving. They reminded me of how I described my own life in my journal years ago, just before I created the Lefkoe Belief Process (originally called the Decision Maker Process) and in the early months after I created it, before I had eliminated many beliefs.
Here are some excepts from my journal in the mid-1980s:
During the past few weeks I have been more and more upset, afraid, on edge. Nothing seems to be happening. I put articles, magazines, etc. out into the world, and nothing comes back. I am worried about money. I am troubled about the situation in which I have put my family.
It seems to be that there is something wrong with me, that no matter what I do, it will never be enough. I feel I am insufficient for the task I’ve set for myself.
Last night I was exhausted, crying when I got home, crying when I got up this morning.
I’m scared. And when I try to look and see what’s going on, my mind wanders and there’s a fog.
I just saw the thoughts: When all is said and done, I’m never going to make it. My life is not going to turn out.
If you didn’t know these comments were written by me many years ago, I’m sure you would assume they were among the many posts written last week describing the one area of your emotional life you would like to change.
Techniques That Didn’t Work For You
In your response to my question—What didn’t work to help you overcome your fear?—you said that most rational approaches, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, positive self-talk, and rational thinking, failed. ”Just don’t let the fear stop you” also didn’t work for most of you.
Your responses were mixed on EFT, hypnosis, and NLP. Some of you said these techniques were useful, others said they dealt only with the symptoms and never got rid of the underlying causes, which made the fear and other negative feelings come back.
Why Most Approaches To Overcoming Fear Don’t Work
I promised I would explain why the approaches that didn’t work for you couldn’t work. Here’s my answer.
Imagine a person with the beliefs: I’m not good enough, mistakes and failure are bad, I’m inadequate, I’ll never get what I want, nothing I do is good enough, life is difficult, people can’t be trusted, etc. If this is his reality, can you see that he would be afraid much of the time? …
Our beliefs have the power they do because, for us, they are our reality. And that’s why most change techniques that deal only with symptoms produce only temporary relief. If the source of your fear (and other negative emotions such as anger and general upset) is your beliefs, then the only thing that will permanently get rid of the fear is to eliminate those beliefs.
Let me give you a few more examples: Our behavior and feelings are responses to our reality. So if my reality is that relationships don’t work, that I’m not lovable, and that women can’t be trusted, then being in a relationship or even having the thought of a close romantic relationship probably would produce some level of anxiety. Why? Because in my reality relationships are unpleasant and unlikely to last.
If we perceive something as threatening us, we are hard-wired to feel some level of fear. If in our reality rejection is a threat to us, rejection will cause fear. If in our reality we will never get what we want and life is dangerous, then we are likely to live with some level of anxiety almost all the time.
In other words those things that we experience as threatening will necessarily result in fear. But what determines which events are perceived as threatening to us? Interestingly enough, it’s not what is actually out there in the world. Instead, it is our beliefs about ourselves, people and life.
Tera posted a comment on my blog that clearly explains why most approaches don’t work:
“I just wanted to point out that the Lefkoe Method is the only way I know that actually gets rid of the cause of the problems ONCE AND FOR ALL rather then all those techniques that only treat the symptoms. EFT, meditation, NLP, false forgiveness and letter writing, could drastically improve the quality of our lives, but they can’t fix the beliefs that cause the problems.”
A Modification Of This Theory
Based on what I learned in the Lefkoe Freedom Experiment earlier this year, I’d like to slightly modify what I’ve just written.
There seems to be an additional step between beliefs (and conditionings) and our behavior and feelings. Let me explain. Remember I said that beliefs get their power because they are our reality and our behavior and feelings are determined by our reality.
In essence, our beliefs and conditionings are the primary determinant for how reality “occurs” for us, or “shows up” for us. And because we usually don’t distinguish between reality and the way reality occurs for us, the “occurring” is our reality and directly determines our behavior and feelings.
Here’s how it works. Say you believe I’m not good enough, I’ll never get what I want, life will never turn out for me, and other similar beliefs. Then you lose your job or your investments severely decline in value. Given those beliefs, the events probably would occur for you as a disaster, as a hole you will never get out of, as another in the many set-backs life keeps throwing at you. (I know because this is a description of my beliefs and the way life occurred for me before I used the Lefkoe Belief Process on myself.)
But can you see that all that happened in the world is that you lost your job or your investments declined in value? With different beliefs the same events would occur for you differently, such as, here is an opportunity to get an even better job, one that will be more fulfilling, or what can this experience teach me about investing that will make me a more successful investor in the future. (How do you think “set-backs” occur for Warren Buffet, Steve Jobs, or Bill Gates?)
The problem for most of us is that we rarely, if ever, distinguish between actual events in the world and how those events occur for us. For us, the way things occur for us is our reality. And even if we did notice the difference, most of us don’t know how to realize that the occurring is only in own minds and not in the world, which would make it disappear.
To Sum Up
Ultimately, getting rid of fear and other negative emotions (and undesirable behavior such as procrastination) requires eliminating the beliefs that cause the problem. Remember, however, because events as such have no meaning, they are unable to make you feel anything. So in the short-term you can get rid of negative feelings in moments by dissolving how the world is occurring for you. When you use the Lefkoe Occurring Process to dissolve the meaning you have given events (which determines how they occur for you), all your negative feelings disappear and you are left with nothing but the meaningless events.
If you eliminate the beliefs that are the source of your fear and other negative emotions and if you learn how to dissolve your “occurring world,” I promise you will be able to create your experience of life regardless of the circumstances. An experience that is free of anxiety and anger, that is instead filled with excitement, joy, and unlimited possibilities.
Now I Have Another Question For You
It’s become clear from your posts during the past week or so that a lot of you are dissatisfied with some aspect of your life and yet you have a sense that something better is possible.
So in order to serve you best, please take a minute to post a comment below telling me how my team and I can best help you increase your love, happiness, success, and fulfillment in your life.
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HI Shelly
I have the Natural confidence course and I feel lots of changes but I still have an anxiety or fear whenever I need to make a decision and speak up to my superiors – what could this belief be or how can i eliminate it
thank you so much
the main reason most of those other methods don’t work, which would include most of what’s being sold by the masters of the secret crowd is its all based on a problem mindset. The more problems you think you have the more you wind up having to fix. In most cases the beliefs are not yours to begin with, hmmmm, lmao
Morty~
I am so thankful to have come across your wonderful method, and certainly at a ‘make it or break it’ time. For myself, it does seem to be as you say, an entire negative way of viewing myself and the world that I was taught… subconsciously. Do you have a specific “belief” to be removed for this all inclusive angle?
And FYI… what really helped, as the methods in your videos, was to ‘imagine’ several friends, teachers, nice people that I knew… along with the “God-send” Uncle Morty next door… telling me that “The world is a marvelous place!”
Hi Julie,
No, there is no one specific belief. There probably are many responsible for a negative view of yourself and life. Check out our Natural Confidence program http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php.
Let me know what you think and let me know if you have any specific questions.
Thanks for commenting on my post.
Regards, Morty
Hi. I am happy to say that recently discover your system. This makes a lot of sense!!
I always had this belief that I had to “struggle” for everything. As a result, I was always tense in setting goals. Although I knew I would eventually achieve my desires/goals, I believed there was a long and difficult road ahead . As a result of this thinking, the universe would deliver all sorts of obstacles in my path – I feel that my life is a circus; I am jumping through rings of fire to finally reach my prize. How do I address this crippling belief?
Many thanks,
Dayana
Hi Dayana,
I’m not sure what the belief(s) is. Probably several. The Natural Confidence program would help a lot, but there might be several beliefs that aren’t included in that program. They could include: Life’s difficult, I’ll never get what I want, I’m not deserving, etc.
The only way to find all the relevant beliefs is a private phone session.
Regards, Morty
A belief that I would like to see added to the online courses is “Nothing works for me”, that belief has been a huge road block for my success doing any personal growth program, including the Lefkoe Method.
Hi Gary,
We don’t have the one you mentioned, but we do have Change is difficult, which deals with the same issue.
Try it and let me know if it helps.
Regards, Morty
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I love the audio podcasts of your blog. It’s so much easier to listen to as I make dinner or ride my bike to work. Thank you for taking the time to record these!
Hi Erik,
Glad you like the podcasts. They are fun to record.
At some point soon we are going to start doing weekly video.
Regards, Morty
Oh I should have added that you can e-mail the PowerPoint presentation or put in on your site under password protection.
Morty, I don’t think you need streaming video to do the individual beliefs. You could do the same thing with PowerPoint. You might have to ask them to type their childhood experiences separately, rather than into a slide, but otherwise what you have is a multimedia slideshow.
Hi Tori,
Thanks for taking the time to send a suggestion.
I wouldn’t be able to have people type their answers into a box that they could continue to see as the program progressed, and then come back up later on, but some parts of the program could work that way.
Is there a problem in having streaming video and DVDs?
Regards, Morty
Morty,
I am enjoying your discourse. However, I am having difficulty grasping your description of “how the world is occurring for you”. I see it more as the world occurring “through” my filters. Do you mean the same thing?
Mike
Hi Mike,
Yes, viewing the world through how it occurs for us is similar to viewing it through your filters.
The question is, how do you define your filters.
I’ll be sending out a few videos in the next few days with more details on the Lefkoe Occurring Process and what it does and how it works.
Regards, Morty
Ive been using hylands nerve tonic to help me deal with anxiety the last two weeks and it has been helping me a great deal. I never realized that i suffered from panic attacks but I put two and two together when I realized how I suffered from heart palpitations and other symptoms. The last two weeks have been great. I’ve also been using EFT and meditation/positive thinking to help me but the main difference has been the reduction in physical symptoms.
Hi David,
If the other approaches have been helping you, that’s great. If they haven’t been, try eliminating the beliefs that are causing your panic attacks. I promise that will eliminate them.
Regards, Morty
Morty if the information comes from a source you consider valid then the information superseeds the information you currently hold. That is why you can change or challange a belief because you deem the souorce of the new information to be more reliable than the information you current hold to be true. We preceive that the person with the new information has more value than the information we currently have so we can accept this new information and replace the old information. If I tell you that you are a wonderful person and very valuable, most people will be thinking in their heads, yes but you dont know……. Where as on the other hand if you are a bible believeing person and I show you in the Bible where it says “you are fearfully and wonderfully made” this can give you the power to change what you believe about yourself. Especially if you continue to get more and more information that allows you to choose a different belief about yourself or to pull down the strong hold of negative beliefs about yourself.
I have been working on me for over 40 years and I seem to be moving by leaps and bounds in these latter few years. I had tried everything, except medication (I knew I was not sick but I did know there was something wrong) so there was no need to take drugs so I looked for my answers elswhere.
After being released from a 14 day stay in the hospital, at around age 20-23 after having a nervis breakdown (yes I know nerves don’t break down) I was told by the doctor that treated me that nothing had changed in my life and he could not understand how I showed up for my 6 week check up seemingly a very normal person. I told him he had Identified the area that I needed to change (my way of thinking and looking at things ie determining my reality) so I had begun to change my way of thinking. If that was what was “wrong” with me then I began to research and learn how to identify what I was thinking (actually believing) and then seek to change that belief. It has been a long haul because I did not have a Morty Lefkoe to mentor me and guide me it was trial and error with lots of errors but I am an awsome woman today because I never gave up on me.
I think that what you are teaching people is awsome and so to the point and if we can help others understand it is their belief system that powers their actions then we can help people change their actions. I am using what I have learned to change the lives of children in the public school system. I am taking on the Detroit Public School system and so far in one school We have been able to reduce tardness by 89.4% and you cant teach them if they are not in class so that was the first step now we are moving on to the 5 other henderences to developing the future leaders of the world. Please check out our website at http://www.thefutureleadersoftheworld.org
Be Blessed and thanks for responding
Joy
Hi Joy,
Congratulations for what you have done in your life and for what you are doing to help children in school.
Maybe all the work you did for the first 40 years in now making it possible to move a lot faster. And if there is anything we can do, please let us know.
Please feel free to use anything we have to offer with the kids, including showing them how to eliminate basic negative self-esteem beliefs free.
Regards, Morty
Wow! This is really great and it is straight to the point. I’ve been struggling to do a lot of things because of certain beliefs and reading your analysis makes me realize that there is hope for me. I’ve missed a lot of good opportunities because of fear, done a lot of things for approval of others rather than for me. With me its others first and me last. My principle too is “treat others the way you like them to treat you” and this has only brought stress and discomfort because people don’t reciprocate the behaviour that I give them.
Hi,
There is always hope for anyone. As I’ve written, I used to be depressed and incredibly needy and they are totally gone now.
Get rid of your limiting beliefs and anything becomes possible. And it’s never too late.
Regards, Morty
Hi Morty,
Completing the program on DVD didnt help me eliminate my fear of public speaking. I am planning on doing it for the second time. Can you give me some tips that are important in being sucessful with the program? Also if DVD doesnt work for me do you think on-on-one session will be more effective? If I take the seccions with the facilitator and have no results will I still have to pay for the sessions?
Thank you,
Oksana
Hi,
just wanted to say that I share the same worries. I think a program to specifically ‘treat’ the fear of public speaking would help lots of people.
Best regards
Hi Rui,
The Natural Confidence course should give you exactly what you want. And if you are one of the very few people that it doesn’t help, you have a lifetime guarantee for a full refund.
Let me know how your fear goes away after you use the course. You can find it at: http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php
Regards, Morty
Hi Morry,
Well said. Love the concept of the occurring, would love to know applying it the simplest way possible . Would love to have a step by step program that eliminates the fear/anxiety and all negative obsessive thinking for good and doesn’t come back, and a technique to confirm that the fear/anxiety is really eliminated without doubt.
a step by step approach to stopping anxiety when it happens, or even before the anxiety starts, better yet, stopping the negative thinking pattern once and for all.
Thank you.
Hi Morty,
I know that OCD is fear-based and seems impossible to get rid of using any of the psychological therapies/techniques. Can you please share some thoughts on this and how I might use your method to eliminate this?
Thanks,
Ali
Morty,
Can you explain a little more about the “Occurring Process” and what kind of help can you give me for procrastination. Sometimes I just feel so completely overwhelmed I cannot even get started. This could go back to ‘I’m not capable,’ but I think there may be more.
What you can do?–on a very practical level–make the individual belief-elimination options available online (especially desirable for those of us who live overseas). I know some of the complete programs are available online, but some of us need to start small.
Hi Tamar,
Thanks for letting us know what you need from us.
At present we are unable to offer individual beliefs in streaming video because of technical problems. We had planned to do that and found it would work if people only ordered one belief at a time, and many people wanted more than one.
If we find a way to offer individual beliefs in streaming video, we will happily do so.
Sorry we can’t right now.
Regards, Morty
I don’t see why they need to be streamed. The videos you have are more like a series of still illustrations with words and forms to write in. They could just be html pages where the person has to click Next to get to the next page or scene, like a PowerPoint presentation. The pages could play sound files either on loading or when the person clicks or rolls over a word or image after being prompted in writing to do so. Some of the text could be written, it doesn’t all need to be pre-recorded, though it could be.
Hi, Morty. I think what would help me most is if you could create a program specifically for dealing with the effects of childhood abuse (ie. like the ones you have for confidence). I am really interested in your programs, but ultimately I feel that only an industrial-strength one will work for me, if you get what I mean. My negative beliefs are about me being killed or brutalized or dying from a fatal sickness…
Hi M,
In order to get rid of any belief, you have to go back to its source, which is usually childhood interactions with parents. Sometimes there is serious abuse, other times it is just a lot of parental annoyance or frustration.
You can eliminate any belief available on our CDs regardless of how bad your childhood was.
If you have specific beliefs that we don’t have available on CDs, we can help you get rid of them in one-to-one phone or Skype sessions. Call us at (415) 506-4472 for more information.
I’m looking forward to helping you let go of the past and its impact on you.
Regards, Morty
I am a senior in high school and I feel that I have anxiety around other people. Some times I feel as if I am not myself. Sometimes I do this thing with my mind where I pay a certain attention to something, then I feel comfortable around other people besides the though of “this wont last all the time”. I was shy up to my 8th grade year in middle school. Then I decided to start talking a bit. I This problem is effecting me in my school work. I just want to be comfortable and satisfied with myself as a whole. I want no more negative thoughts on myself.
Most of my life has been ruled by fear of taking risks though I can feel something in me that wants to fly. I remember when I was in my twenties, living in California, and depressed. One night I drank a bottle of wine and got so depressed….then the voice from my depths said, “There’s got to be something better than this.” It took thirty years and lots of other methods to find it through your belief elimination process. I would like further information on how to boost my confidence in my writing and eliminating fears that hold me back. The free elimination belief videos are a good beginning, like wiping away the accumulated grime on a window, layer by layer. Also, I would like to learn how to to deal with my sister and nephew who argue you about everything I say.
Another free Lefkoe Method lesson (would be especially good if on inner peace/balance). I know I am dreaming….. :)
I have just read some stuff in a self-help book about boundaries that I thought was very valuable. I learned that they are not just between the self and others, but they define us, they tell us who we are. Those of use with dysfunctional pasts have problems not just with others but ones that show up as procrastination, in inconsistency, in anger, and in not making feelings known. It all has to do with parents who did not respect or help us build boundaries. The book didn’t really give any method to help that I found practical (actually it’s a Christian book and I’m not religious, but it’s called Changes that Heal) but it gave a lot to think about (main methods were support groups and relationships–I need something I can do on my own as those other things aren’t practical at this point). It would be great if TLM would talk more about finding and maintaining boundaries.
Morty
I have just completed the natural confidence course, the first time I whizzed through it in a week and I felt lighter. Now I am doing it fir a second time over the ones I feel I need to dig deeper at. All I can say is that I feel cleaner purer and wonderfully powerful. Now what I would like is maybe a follow course such as looking at more beliefs, there’s hundreds right? Or maybe a Pdf or flowchart where you can take any belief and then work through it to eliminate it. You know something real simple where you can follow a process for any belief you might have. Also in a lot of the sessions you deal with anger etc of a parent but what about if people laughed at you or ridiculed you etc?Also I would love to do the occuring reality course but I believe you are working on something regards that. Amazing stuff you and you wife and team are doing thanks so much for making it simple, so many times we love to complicate things and I an all about simplifying life. Do you also do courses to teach these methods?
Hi! Of all things, I’m curious to know why do you think NLP doesn’t work? I heard countless stories about people overcoming a life-long phobia in just one session, including my trainer who had severe claustrophobia. I myself have drastically reduced my fear of stray dogs, even though I have only worked with my fellow course attendants, not with the trainers themselves.
What I would like to overcome myself is fear of making phone calls, fear of stray dogs on the streets and fear of flying (the last 2 ultimately coming down to fear of dying, which makes me doubt anything short of knowing I have a soul would help)…
Hi Dan,
I’ve never tried NLP so I have no personal knowledge of how effective it is. I was only reporting what people posted on my blog.
I do know that The Lefkoe Method can eliminate most fears and phobias.
Regards, Morty
Morty:
What would be great is reaching that point of deep and absolute REALIZATION that negative beliefs are just that, not reality. But it is not easy to eliminate those fears and beliefs that have been with you almost all of your life. So the key would be to deeply realize and accept that this paralizing fears come from beliefs you formed in your mind and not out there in the world.
Hi Veronica,
It actually is very easy to eliminate your negative beliefs using the Lefkoe Belief Process. Try it at http://recreateyourlife.com.
And when the beliefs that cause your fear are eliminated, the fear will be gone also.
Regards, Morty
I was very excited when you first began posting about your concept of the “occurring” process. I believe you are mining deeper into the belief process to uncover the inner workings.
For me, fear is sometimes connected to certain people’s attitudes and words, triggering those old thought-forms. While reading this posting, I couldn’t help but think that perhaps the solution to these fears lies in how these other people “occur” to us. Could you possibly speak to that?
And may I say, I truly look forward to your postings and appreciate so much that you share your journey of discovery. Your thoughts and approaches make more sense than anything else I have encountered. Rather than dripping with theory, limitations and blame, they resonate with real life and actual core solutions not band-aids or “let’s-pretend-you-are-better” thinking. Thank you so very much!
Hi Tenn,
Thanks for your comments.
You can learn more about my thoughts on “occurring” from several videos I will be sending out in the next couple of weeks.
If you still have questions after watching them, please let me know.
Regards, Morty
I believe that we ARE each of us creating our own reality, whether consciously or not and moreover, even though we may have inklings of consciousness (brief glimpses) in our moments attempting to get conscious, what we really need is a major paradigm shift.
I believe that shift is something equal to acceptance and belief that everything is indeed happening towards a purpose and this purpose is always for our greater good in the end. Of course, there really is no “end” because we are pure spirit taking part in a physical experience. Our job becomes remembering who we are – and in those brief glimpses learn to accept and love ourselves as absolutely perfect in this moment. That I believe is the beginning of the “shift.”
Hi Monica,
I agree that “we are pure spirit taking part in a physical experience.” But you can’t ignore that physical experience. It is run primarily by beliefs and conditionings. So to make changes in our day to day experience of life, we need to eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that make the experience fearful, upsetting, etc.
Regards, Morty
Hello People,
I believe that fear ( that is not related to physical safety) has one source. It is our feelings of inadequacy. It seems that everything we are afraid of goes against what we believe about ourselves. It is human nature to find things that make us right about our beliefs. Our beliefs about ourselves, our abilities, our place in the world are the cause of all that we do and the results that we get. If those beliefs are not working for us. If they are preventing us from getting what we say we want in life, then they need to be changed. Morty has the technique and many, many people claim that it works for them. So my question here is, why don’t all of you who are asking for advice take the plunge and do whatever it takes to acquire your Lefkoe Belief Process. What are you all waiting for? The work is yours. No one can do it for you.
Thanks Morty for all the posts. I really enjoy them. As you know, self-esteem is my passion.
Hi Janet,
Thanks for taking the time to express your thoughts on my blog.
I’m really thrilled that our work has been so useful to you.
Regards, Morty
Hi Monty
My issue is that I’m worried that if I succeed in achieving my goal I won’t get any further, I wont achieve the next stage. I have wanted this since I was five, and if I’m not good enough and this is the thing I’m most sure I can do am I as useless as what my teacher/bullies told me I was. And what if I am good enough and just using this as an excuse not to try. This loop is driving me mad. And self imposed deadlines are meaningless to me, is this a confidence fear or procrastination? And why give so much weight to the future when I could be enjoying working towards it? Any advice thanks
Hi Rhonda,
Sounds to me like a confidence problem, possibly compounded by procrastination. Our Natural Confidence package is guaranteed to eliminate both of these problems. http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php
Let me know how you feel after eliminating the 19 beliefs in this program.
Regards, Morty
Hi Morty,
How do you overcome false beliefs implanted into your mind during childhood by your parents, teachers, friends, environment and the church? As a child, whatever is said to you is a reality. How do you eliminate these childhood beliefs. Further you have spoken of the Lefkoe occuring process. Could you explain this process clearly using a few examples. Your reply in this connection would be gratefully appreciated.
Best wishes,
Anthony.
Hi Anthony,
The Lefkoe Belief Process is very effective at eliminate beliefs formned as a child as a resuklt of interactions with parents and others.
You can try the Process without charge at http://recreateyourlife.com.
We will be sending out some videos in the next week or so describing the Lefkoe Occurring process. You also can get information about it from three blog posts I wrote last December.
Regards, Morty
The one thing that I know about fear is that you cannot remove it, in order for you to understand the function of fear you actually have to understand your experience of fear. Your mind can convince you of a lot of different concepts on how to do this or how to do that but the underlying things that create fear are not always rational or logical which is how the mind functions, the mind can only function in a state of either/or and it tends to go to the extreme of one of these poles. The mind has a very hard time realizing the fact that both either/or together are necessary, they form the whole of everything that can be understood from a conceptual point of view but there are things that also the mind cannot understand this is where you need to be able to feel your fear, really truly experience it for what it is, it has a function and if you condemn the function that it serves then you only create more tension and anxiety in your life. This is the very fundamental thing about it. We spend so much time in our culture trying to cultivate beliefs of perfection, am I beautiful enough? am I successful enough? am I this? am I that? and of course there is a tension of being abundant in these things just as much of a lack of these things. Do not condemn anything just as much as do not worship it. Everything that exists is already the case, it needs no improvement. if you can give yourself permission to experience what it is you are in conflict with you will gain more understanding and awareness of what it is that you are having difficulty with.
Hi Jason,
Thanks for your thoughtful reply.
My experience is that fear is a built-in mechanism that humans have to a perceived threat to our survival. But usually we can determine what we perceive as a threat. And by shifting something from a threat to a challenge, the fear disappears.
Regards, Morty
Morty,
What is the “Occurring Process”? Steps to eliminate procrastinate is really needed.
Lu
Hi Lu,
The Lefkoe Occurring Process will not get rid of your procrastination.
Our package that eliminates all the beliefs conditionings that cause procrastination is guaranteed to eliminate it.
Check it out here: http://recreateyourlife.com/store/procrastination.php
Your approach makes sense-but can you explain how it avoids the pitfall of leaving one with overdetachment from life in our society- and/or inner void- and where do the anchoring of positive beliefs come in to replace the previous mindset- which included positive meanings as well as negative?
Hi Ellen,
I just wrote a long post to you that somehow got lost. So I will write it all over again.
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Getting rid of the stories you tell yourself about reality that aren’t true and that exist only in your mind, so that you are left with nothing but reality, doesn’t detach you from reality, it enables you to deal with reality. If not you are dealing with the way reality occurs for you, which is totally detached from reality because you aren’t at all in touch with reality. Get rid of your occurring is what enables you to deal directly with reality.
I’m not sure what you mean by “anchoring” positive beliefs. You don’t replace undesirable occurring with anything unless you want to (you don’t need to), and then it is a meaning that lasts only for the moment to shift how reality shows up for you.
Neither I nor anyone who has eliminated beliefs or used the Lefkoe Occurring Process have ever experienced an “inner void.”
I hope this answers all your questions.
Regards, Morty
Morty, For almost a year I have been using the Lefkoe Method to successfully change many of my negative beliefs. The area where I struggle is how to incorporate this into my spiritual beliefs in God and Jesus. How does this fit in with what God teaches us in the Bible?
Thank You,
Wanda
Hi Wanda. I don’t consider myself to be religious and therefore don’t go to church or read the bible. However, I DO believe in God (or whatever name someone wants to give God, e.g. Father, the Source, the Creator, the Divine Architect, the Supreme Soul, the Great Spirit, etc, etc) I know a lot of people feel that they gain a great deal from reading the Bible, the Koran and other religious texts and going to church – and if that’s the case, that’s fine. But I also think religion has given God a bad reputation and created a lot of fear around Him/Her (I think gender is pretty meaningless when referring to God). A lot of people seem to reject religion and therefore God. But a relationship with God without the confusion and constraints that religion very often seems to create, is a far freer one. I just wish more people would look to Him/Her and ask for His/Her help. All the best, Steve
Hi Steve,
Thanks for taking the time to try to help someone who posted on my blog.
Regards, Morty
hi Wanda,
i know that i had alot of beliefs about god and the bible until i acually read and studied it for myself. and those negative beliefs changed. the renaisance happened because people read the written word and it changed thier beliefs . we just have to look at religous leaders and denominations as “bad parents” that give us thier version of “the truth”.just let the word of God speak like your friendly uncle morty giving advice. Many cults thrive on implanting negative beliefs like “if you leave this church you will go to hell, or if you dont do what i say your disobeying God etc.” none of wich are true to the bible but people believe and needlessly live in fear.i really think Jesus constantly challenged the disciples on what they believed and showed them the truth.
take care, Aj
Hi Aj,
Thanks for taking the time to try to help someone who posted on my blog.
Regards, Morty
Hi Wanda,
To the best of my knowledge, there is nothing in our work that contradicts anything in the Bible.
What specifically are you trying to reconcile about our work and what God teaches in the Bible?
Regards, Morty
I had always wondered if CBT or Positive Thinking would ever eventually help. I read a few books that insisted that repeating and repeating the correct thinking would make it automatic over time and would build a strong thought pattern if you practiced thinking differently. I was told to write my negative thoughts and replace them with more compassionate thoughts…I have been trying to do this for a couple of years now and it just wasnt working for me. It was really frustrating. I had heard that over time you would begin to believe this new way of thinking….I have always wondered if it would ever really work.
Jen
You can not change a behaviouor until you change a belief. You will not change your belief until you get new information. That Informaton must come from a source you consider valid.
Hi Joy,
The Lefkoe Belief Process does get rid of beliefs, but in my experience with literally thousands of people, information (even if from reputable sources) rarely if ever permanently eliminated long-held beliefs.
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Regards, Morty
Hi Jen,
Anything can work for some people once in a while.
But I explained in my post above why “positive thinking” doesn’t work for most people, most of the time: the beliefs causing the problem are not eliminated.
I’m sure you must really be frustrated after doing what you thought would work for you for a couple of years … and finding the problems still there. I’m truly sorry.
But getting rid of beliefs does work. I promise and offer a life-time guarantee.
Regards, Morty
dEAR mORTY i REALLY APPRECIATE YOU TEMPTATIVE TO HELP ME , BUT IN FACT NOTHING THIS HAPPENS, i AM STILL FULL OF FEARS MANY MANY FEARS-REJECTION-FAILURE POVERTY-PUBLIC SPEAKING ASK FOR HELP- QUESTIONS ANDMANY OTHERS
PLEASE HELP ME LET GO ALL THEM, PLEASE BE EFFECTIVE , I AM DESPERATE.THANKS
Hi Joao,
I’m not sure from your post what help you need.
Please call us at (415) 506-4472 and tell us and we will do whatever we can.
Regards, Morty
This is very encouraging! Well, if you felt the same way I am feeling now, then it can only mean one thing: my life IS going to turn out, right? :-) ….but how? and when?
Hi Eva,
My life didn’t just change by itself. I found every belief I had that was producing problems in my life and eliminated it. I found every conditioning and de-conditioned it. I did the Who am I Really? Process repeatedly. And then I developed the Lefkoe Occurring Process and now use that.
So, yes, my depression is totally gone, my neediness is totally gone, my inability to create a successful business has been replaced by a successful Lefkoe Institute, and my inability to have a good long-term relationship has been replaced by Shelly, to whom I’ve now been married 29 years. And all that took a lot of time and energy. But it can be done and I did it and we have a lot of clients who have done it to.
And you can do it also.
Regards, Morty
Thanks so much for your reply! How old were you when you started working on eliminating your beliefs? How long did it take you to do this? Did you have to go through a lot of pain? I am so scared to look at my childhood again because I don’t want to go through all the abuse one more time. Do you think it’s important to go through it again in order to get rid of all the limitations? Which products would you recommend me to work with? Do you work with EFT as well? Thanks a lot, Morty! I’m so glad Joe told me about you. This world is full of wonderful people (well, I love THIS belief ;-) it’s a fact, actually,- so there!)
I did recently read “The book of est” and loved it. Thank you for all your work.
Eva
Hi Morty,
I have fear of height and I have made some progress in reducing the fear. Just wanted to understand if there is any way to eliminate or reduce this fear.
I really think EFT is good for phobia-type fears. There are loads of sites, but http://www.emofree.com is probably a good place to start. Its quick and painless, and particularly good at unearthing the traumatic events around the fear, and dealing with them.
The Lefkoe process is great for problems caused by many smaller events, I feel.
Hi Lanna,
I’m not that familiar with EFT to know how effective it is. It may well permanently get rid of phobias.
I do know that The Lefkoe Method has been very successful in getting rid of phobias.
Thanks for supporting the others on this blog. I appreciate it and I’m sure the people you advise appreciate it also.
Regards, Morty
Hi Nilendu,
We have been very successful helping people get rid of phobias in our one-to-one phone or Skype sessions.
For details please call us at (415) 506-4472.
Regards, Morty
Tools/methods to help us get rid of our attachments (things we cling to) & our adversions (things we want to push away) would help us be more at peace regardless of what happens in our lives
Hi Heather,
The new Lefkoe Occurring Process would be such a tool. It was developed in an experimental workshop I conducted earleir this year. I will be teaching that process it another workshop we will announce in the next week or so.
In addition, of course, getting rid of beliefs also gets rid of attachments and aversions.
Thanks for your comments.
Regards, Morty
Hi,
It seems to me that I have been sabotaging myself in terms of making money. I am a consultant in organizational learning. Because of my network, my friends have been asking me to btoker deals such as finding buyers for 5 star hotels, investors for coal mining, palm oil plantations, etc. I did fund the potential buyers and investors, but none of the deals materialized. Moreover, my income has remained flat for the past 7 years, although professionally and personally I have made great progressm
I would highly appreciate it if you would help me eliminate the beliefs that has been keeping my income flat, which is not in line with what I have achieved in terms of additional knowledge, skills and spiritual development.
Best regards,
Listiani
Hi Listiani,
We would be happy to help you eliminate any beliefs that are getting int he way of your business success.
Please call us at (415) 506-4472 and make an appointment for a one-to-one phone or Skype session with a Certified Lefkoe Method Facilitator. If you have any questions, Karen will be happy to answer them before you commit to a session.
I’m looking forward to helping you.
Regards, Morty
I think there is something else behind the “ocurring” and the “belief system” that determines strong emotions like fear. Fear is a primal mechanism, its function is to defend us from danger, and the ego sees danger everywhere. For the ego, the “external” world is essentialy dangerous. It is not a belief, it is the direct consequence of dividing reality to create the “I” and “the other”, mainly because it uses to happen when “the other” is totally unknown, more strong, and more powerful than the “I”.
I am exploring this in myself. Fear and other strong emotions are rooted in the perspectives we use to observe/see “the other”, and that perspective is based on a false divisive notion of time/space.
Of course, it is very difficult to change that notion in our everyday life, because society works on reinforcing it constantly.
That’s why it is so difficult to get rid of the ego and all the emotions we use to protect it.
I hope this help.
Thanks for all your postings.
Hi Silvia,
I agree that fear is the result of having an ego and thinking that we are our ego and that”we” might die. So anything we perceive as a threat to our survival, produces fear.
But we have a choice in what we perceive as being a threat. And by eliminating beliefs and dissolving how reality occurs for us, we can eliminate most of the fear in our lives. That’s not a theory, it’s what I and others who have done our Occurring Course have reported.
Thanks for taking the time to comment.
Regards, Morty
Inner balance…
Hi Morty
This is great! As a therapist and someone who has had to deal with a fair share of fear and anxiety and various points in my life, this makes a lot of sense and I wish you success with it.
Let me know if I can be of help at any time.
With love
Annie
Hi Annie,
Glad you found my information interesting.
Thanks for the offer of help.
Love, Morty