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I was thinking back the other day about what has had the greatest impact on my life, and I recalled a specific session that I had with your late beloved husband, Morty. I had the good fortune of being asked to participate in one of the top real estate expos in the country, but even so, my sales were nowhere near the other top sellers. I had a session with Morty, and he helped me realize that I had was being held back because I felt that I was unworthy of having higher sales and unworthy of being successful. After identifying the problem, he walked me through the process of eliminating those false beliefs. The following weekend, I increased by sales by ten fold with over $450,000 in sales and I went on to becoming one of the top selling speakers in my industry.

I am a firm believer in your system–that you can create your own life by identifying and eliminating false beliefs that are holding you back. Morty helped me both personally and professionally with a variety of obstacles, and I am so grateful. I would not have the success I have today if it were not for the sessions that I had with him. I am thrilled that you are continuing your work to help others achieve breakthroughs in their life, and I love that you even have the “do-it-yourself” programs, which I am sure will be a blessing to so many people. I wish you all the best!

-Donna Bauer, The Notebuyer

Hi, it’s Shelly Lefkoe, co-founder of the Lefkoe Institute. Today I want to talk about something that’s on everybody’s mind in America right now. Every day we’re hearing more and more charges of sexual abuse, inappropriate behavior towards women in the workplace by people who we trusted, who gave us the news, who were in the entertainment industry, who were our politicians.

And I was really moved to make this video about what happens when someone is sexually assaulted, whether they’re assaulted, raped or inappropriately touched.

What I’ve found over the last 30 years of working with people is that it isn’t what happens to you that causes your life-long suffering, it’s the beliefs that you form out of what it is that happened.

I’m not in any way minimizing what happened if you were in fact raped, or sexually abused, or assaulted, or even touched inappropriately by someone.

That is a violation, it’s inappropriate, it might have been scary, it might have been a horrible experience, and I am 100% compassionate with whoever had an experience like that.

I have worked with many people who’ve been raped, and it’s the beliefs that they form, like, “I’m damaged goods, I’m powerless, nobody would want me, men are sleazy, men can’t be trusted” that determine how we will be later on in relationships, how we approach men in every aspect of our live.

And instead of looking and seeing, “Is this a man I can trust?” We will automatically not trust men.

If you believe “I’m damaged goods” that’s gonna hurt you in how you are, or even whether or not you enter into intimate relationships with men.

Very rarely do I make a video saying, “You should have a session with me.” But in this one I actually am.

I recently worked with a college student who was raped. And for a year and a half this young woman tortured herself. In one hour she got rid of the belief, “I’m damaged goods, I’m powerless, and men can’t be trusted.” It lifted for her.

In the second session we had she said, “Shelly, it’s a non-issue. I hated that it happened, I wished it didn’t happen, but it doesn’t mean anything going forward in my life.” And there was a lightness about her that just made my heart fill with joy.

So I am reaching out and saying if you or anyone you know has been raped, or sexually assaulted in any way, please contact Lefkoe Institute and we can help.

Thanks for listening.

By Shelly LefkoePublished On: Tuesday, December 5, 2017Categories: Sexual Assault, Trauma11 Comments

Leigh Reedy December 6, 2017 at 10:51 am - Reply

Me too! A million “THANK YOUS” to you.
A few years back, I looked on the website & understood how the Lefkoe method worked, because I have attempted to help others my whole life, automatically, by pointing out different viewpoints & possible perspectives, so they might become aware that life can get better. Morty has helped me by the little bit of special time I spent on his free examples, years back.
I am sorry you 2 are not together (in the same way), now.
He could never guess how many others, like me, that have been helped a bit, silently, invisibly, by at least touching on those free examples for a few special moments.
It is difficult for me to trust men in public authority type positions.
My 2 years in an outdoor engineering construction unit in the US Army when I was 18 & 19 left me with “battle scars” from sexual traumas, which I have spent over 40 years trying to “hide or heal or ignore”.
*I am too afraid to actually do the healing “work” for fear of the parts I blacked out from my memory will rage back full force.*
I never stick with finishing the types of healings I have tried so far, because when I DO get a bit of relief from constant alertness, bad dreams & pain…I have enough strength (TEMPORARILY), to keep SUPPRESSING the disturbing, crippling FEELINGS again & AGAIN, & pretend nothing is wrong. To no avail.
I SO APPRECIATE ALL YOU ARE DOING –
AND ALL BOTH YOU & MORTY HAVE DONE IN THE PAST.
Sincerely,
The “should have been a hippie”,
HERMIT
- Shelly Lefkoe December 6, 2017 at 11:27 am - Reply
  
  Hi Leigh,
  I promise I can help you get rid of the belief that you formed back them without having you relive the whole thing. It gets harder and harder to hold those beach balls (the beliefs) under water. Let’s get rid of them for good. Not looking at something does not give you freedom and it’s exhausting. You will be shocked at the difference one session can make. I rarely say this because it is not always true but in the case of sexual abuse it is. You deserve to have freedom from what happened all those years ago and I can help. Go to bookshelly.com.
  Love, Shelly
"T.J." December 6, 2017 at 6:33 am - Reply

Oh my goodness! You are going to be a busy lady! Thank you for the work that you. Many Canadians are holding The United States of America in their hearts and prayers these days.

Prayer and Re-Prayer and Repair.

Your message gives hope of healing.
- Shelly Lefkoe December 6, 2017 at 11:28 am - Reply
  
  thank you TJ
Joy December 5, 2017 at 9:58 pm - Reply

I too was moved to tears by this wonderful message. I have been following you (receiving your emails) for several years now. This is the first time I have posted a comment. Please keep up the good work that you and your dear Morty started. I was myself a victim of sexual abuse and I struggled with labeling myself as “damaged goods”. Now I have a very dear loved one who has suffered sexual assault and I want so much to help her. I shared your post on my FB in the hope that your words and your work will reach her and others who are in need of this message. Bless you Shelly, for continuing this life changing work.
- Shelly Lefkoe December 6, 2017 at 11:30 am - Reply
  
  Thank you Joy. That’s of of the most common beliefs I work with people who have been sexually abused. Send your friend my way.
  Thank you for sharing my post. It is an important one.
  
  With love and gratitude,
  Shelly
Erin December 5, 2017 at 6:09 pm - Reply

Such a wonderful message, Shelly. Thank you for this video. I hope people are moved to reach out and get the help they need. (Thank you, too, for providing a transcript of your video for those of us who prefer to read, are hearing impaired, or may not be able to turn on audio.)
- Shelly Lefkoe December 6, 2017 at 11:30 am - Reply
  
  Thanks Erin. Me too. I’m here to serve for sure.
  
  With love,
  Shelly
Erin December 5, 2017 at 6:09 pm - Reply

Such a wonderful message, Shelly. Thank you for this video. I hope people are moved to reach out and get the help they need. (Thank you, too, for providing a transcript of your video for those of us who prefer to read, are hearing impaired, or may not be able to turn on audio.)
Phoenix December 5, 2017 at 5:38 pm - Reply

Thank you for making this video, Shelly! I was moved to tears. I hope more people who have suffered from sexual assault will be able to use the Lefkoe Method to heal from the beliefs that were formed. Things really can turn around so quickly, just as they did for the college student you helped. 💕
- Shelly Lefkoe December 6, 2017 at 11:31 am - Reply
  
  Thanks Phoenix and thanks for all the work you do to help get the word out.
  
  With love,
  Shelly

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