Last week I reminded you that dissolving the meaning we give events all day long will virtually stop your negative feelings and stress. Then I gave you a link to a web App that would allow you to do just that whenever you noticed a negative feeling.
If you have a hard time believing that merely dissolving meaning will totally eliminate stress, read what Rob Shapiro, an emergency room doctor, wrote me just a couple of weeks ago about his experience of dissolving meaning:
… all stress experienced by my body and mind at my job had been completely eliminated. That’s right, ALL stress! Don’t get me wrong, it remained a very busy and stressful environment, but I got to the point where I could go through an entire 12-hour shift and remain at peace the entire time.
There is a second major benefit from dissolving meaning
I’ve already explained on several occasions that less stress will result in you being a healthier person and probably living longer life. But if that isn’t enough reason to make regular use of this revolutionary web App, today I want to explain how dissolving meaning will also increase your ability to be more successful in achieving whatever you want to achieve.
Imagine that you lose your job and you unconsciously and automatically give that event the meanings: It was my fault. I’ll never find another job. There are no good jobs out there. What are the possibilities for finding another job, given what you think is true about your situation? … Not very good, are there?
Now imagine you dissolve those meanings and you are left with just the simple fact: You are out of work and need another job. Without the negative meanings in the way, you might think about your contacts on LinkedIn who might be able to help. You remember the friend who mentioned a few weeks ago an opening at his firm. You think of all the friends you have who’d be willing to introduce you to the HR department at their firm. Etc.
Dissolving meaning changes your reality
In other words, a reality in which you were responsible for losing your job and in which there are no good jobs available is a reality is which you don’t have many possibilities for finding a new job. But change that reality (which actually only exists in your mind, not in the world) and all of a sudden possibilities open up.
Because our moment-to-moment meanings seem like part of reality to us, they limit our options for taking action in the world. Dissolving those meanings not only relieves us from emotional suffering, it also opens up opportunities that would otherwise not have been open to us.
A few comments from people who tried our web App
Here are what a few people who tried the web App last week said about their experience:
Thank you for the steps. They worked great! I will be sure to tell everyone I know about this. Thank you so much. – Ted
This is awesome really awesome.. thanks…- Essay Papers
It seems so simple but yet it is so effective. It worked great after a big fight with my son, I had a lot of guilty feelings but was able to eliminate them based on this app! – Thanks! – Lisa
Great work Morty! It’s exciting to see how this process is becoming simpler and easier to use for more people. I just went through it and found it super helpful. And an App is a great idea! – Matt
I really had to be honest with myself when answering the last question. It’s easy for me to hold onto negative emotions but in reality when I got to the end, the feeling really was gone. I laughed at the fact that I would become anxious or fearful over a story I told myself that wasn’t even true. Great app! – Laurie
It will take less than three minutes
Although I have taught hundreds of people in our Lefkoe Freedom Course how to reduce the frequency of the meaning they attribute to moment-to-moment events from 50+ a day to just several a week, I didn’t have an easy way to teach anyone how to consistently dissolve individual meanings and emotions in just a few minutes.
I have finally created a simple series of steps that will enable you to identify a negative feeling as you’re experiencing it, distinguish between the event and the meaning that is causing the feeling, and then dissolve both the meaning and the feeling. Completing all the steps should take less than three minutes.
My intention is to turn this version of the Lefkoe Freedom Process into a smartphone App that you and everyone else in the world can use to eliminate negative feelings whenever you notice them.
But before we build the smartphone App, I want to make sure it works consistently and that every step is crystal clear. So we’ve made the Lefkoe Freedom Process-App into a web-based program.
Please try it (no charge) and see how effective it is in dissolving both the meaning and negative feeling the meaning creates in just minutes. Then notice that you have possibilities and opportunities that you did not see before. Finally, I have two favors to ask:
Let’s make it available to the world
- Please leave me a note at the bottom of this blog post letting me know your experience. If there was any part of the process that did not work for you, if you were confused at any point, if you have any suggestions for improvement, if it worked perfectly, etc., please let me know.
- If it worked for you, please tell as many people as possible about it and give them the link. My long-range goal is to eliminate stress and emotional suffering in the world and I’d appreciate your assistance in reaching the seven billion people whose suffering can be relieved. I also want people to begin to realize that most of their limitations are in their minds, not in the world.
Here’s where to find the LFP-APP.
A Note to Readers
I met with my surgeon last Friday and she told me she wished all her patients were like me. No pain whatsoever now or at any time since my surgery three weeks ago. My incision is healing perfectly. After losing about a foot of my colon, my bowels are working fine.
I’ll be meeting with my oncologist next week to see what she has to say.
In the meantime I am pursuing all my alternative approaches, including high dose vitamin C, cannabis, a ketogenic diet (to reduce glucose in my system, which cancer feeds on), and a bunch of supplements and vitamins that will improve my immune function and fight cancer cells.
People are telling me I look as good as I have in years. And I have a strange reaction sometimes when people ask me, with concern in their voice, “How are you feeling?” I feel so good and am so confident that the cancer will be totally gone soon, that I forget for a minute why they are asking and think to myself: “Why are you concerned? I feel fine!”
I literally forget about my diagnosis for days on end and do not have the slightest doubt that what I’m doing will be effective. For me it’s like: I know I’m okay and in a few weeks/months my doctors will see the evidence and agree.
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I have totally eliminated fear and emotional suffering from my life whatever happens! I however did this differently from what Morty teaches, though reading his blog posts helped alot. I did this by totally eliminating myself from the events ( occurings) in my life! In other words, I became totally UNSELFISH and quit looking at evrything that I do or that happens to me from the SELF point of view. Perhaps this could help somebody.
Steve, can you describe in more detail your method? Can you provide some examples. Sounds interesting…
Nada–have tried this method several times and zero effect, think that it might be unreasonable to expect to undue damage from traumatic incidents with a few words and to promise to do so is counter productive and dishearetening. Yeah I know attaching the meaning “disheartening” to the experience, so ok another of a zillion learning experiences I don’t need.
Hey Morty!
I just had a brilliant idea on how to make the dissolving the meaning much more powerful and efficient! I was doing the WAIR process and I had a sudden idea of inspiration. What if, whenever someone felt like they were in a difficult situation, they did the exercise you recommended which was… “You remind yourself that whatever you are thinking, feeling, or doing, is the result of beliefs that you made up. (Distinguishing yourself as the creator) and allowing you to have distance between the upsetting emotions.
Then, you use your the Lefkoe Freedom App to dissolve the meaning. I’ve had great success by dissolving the meaning, but sometimes if I’m too caught up in the emotion, it’s hard and I can’t do it. But this technique would solve that problem.
In fact, everyone should distinguish themselves as the creator, and then dissolve the meaning. Because then at least, if they can’t dissolve it, they won’t be run by their negative emotions. Really interested to see what you think of this idea. I think it would be very very helpful.
Thanks a lot Morty!
Ted
I also don’t understand why there could be a YES possibility to frame 3: “Is it clear that the meaning is not an inherent part of what happened, but something you added to what happened?” If a person can already see that the event and meaning are separate, then why go through the process? This caused ANOTHER occurring for me. It was like raising my hand and saying “guilty”. Then I clicked NO.
What would be better Morty, is for you to phrase this differently, I think. If you define an occurring as automatic and unconscious meaning attributed to an event, then OF COURSE the person cannot separate the feeling! My suggestion would be to state: you are now about to explore possible alternative meanings to understand that the one you automatically attributed is only ONE possibility and not necessarily the truth (or something like that).
I agree that arriving at alternative meanings is necessary to see that you are attributing only one possible meaning. The mind needs proof.
The frame that starts out: “If the incident…” ought to have the word “one” before the word “meaning”.
Dear Morty,
I like the app too. If I were to add anything I would say that even / especially if I can quickly I’ve added meaning to a situation, I would still find it useful to go to the page that encourages me to find alternate meanings. Also, what about going one further and adding a “possible possibilities” question?
All the best,
Steven
Dear Morty, please I trust you and keep following your tips and suggstions, I didnt get results so far.What I am doing wrong? What can you do to help me ?Thank you very very much ,Joao
I hope you are Ok and your disease is under control.I pray for you.God bless you.
Hey Joao,
Just an idea:
You can use what your wrote to do the process with the app he mention above and see if you can dissolve the meaning you gave to your experience with his tips and suggestions.
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But before starting you have to name the emotion or feeling… what feeling or emotion do you experience because of the no results?
1 Emotion: >>> (for ex.: despair, frustration, disappointment, resentment,… )?
2 Situation: >>> Following Morty’s tips and suggestions and not getting results (what result disn’t you get? What result do you want by doing the process?)
Meaning: >>> I am doing something wrong.
Give it a try and notice what happens if you do the steps one at the time, profoundly and honest.
PS: Be aware of the mind that choose to be right instead of being free, such a mind plays tricks on all of us.
Just putting an internal conversation and questioning into writing here and see what good will come out of it:
When someone is yelling to you, does it feel bad because of the meaning you gave to it?
Or do you give that meaning because it felt bad?
Is it really so that an event doesn’t stir up any emotion when the mind doesn’t add a meaning to it?
Say you walk out of the store and your car isn’t where you’ve left it. That sensation you feel, the moment you notice that the car is gone, is that caused by a meaning or caused by the event?
One can say it is because of an expectation. But It is normal to find your car back where you have left it. Our brains generalize by default (very helpful when learning new skills like using a doorknob) . So be without expectations is an utopia as long we have brains.
I would say we (our mind) add meaning because of the unpleasant sensation that came from the event. It is correct to say that all of this (sensation, meaning and emotion) isn’t really in the event and all in our mind (and body). But it is there because of a brain, which by default naturally expect things to be a certain way and respond with chemicals when things are different then expected. As for as I know, all of this is happening inside without or even before the mind gives meaning to it.
I say that an event triggers a sensation that is not caused by a meaning the mind gave to it. And that the mind give meaning based on the sensation caused by a normal functioning brain.
A mind that doesn’t add a meaning keeps on wondering what this situation is all about. It isn’t easy to calm the mind when it get the message ‘better not to add meaning to an event in order to keep the being where it is part of, free from disturbance, terror and emotion.
However, …. a consideration, … who is (or should be) in charge, the mind… or you?
The mind is like a child, always asking for something, drawing all attention and pretending it is something that it is not :-)
To take responsibility, one has to be a good parent and leader towards its own mind.
And like many child, the mind has a few powerful tricks to deceive you and remain in charge.
And it will behave like a mean spoiled child when it starts to realize it is no longer in charge.
When you know how to deal with a mind that becomes angry and destructive towards the self where it is part of, you will become much more powerful then the mind ever can make you. For that matter, all the mind can do regarding this is giving you the illusion of power, not real power itself.
Concluding my free flow of thoughts:
I find your process very useful and profound Morty, when there is a meaning given to an event while the event itself is past. But it’s an other story when one has a mind that want to be right about everything. It will use tricks to keep on feeling bad to justify its reaction and attitude towards whatever it is directed to. For people with this kind of minds, the process doesn’t do much. They choose to be right rather then to be free ;-)
All the best and thank you for your gifts to mankind.
Dennis
Dennis, I think you are mistaken. Why? Because the pain you feel when the car is gone after you leave the store is actually because you added the meaning to the event. Why? Because if you would be a multi billionaire and your car is gone, you would not react the same way, but it would be the exact same event. So the event cannot trigger that, it is the meaning you added personally. It’s the images that your mind creates with losing a car and this is something everybody perceives differently. What do you think about that?
I love this app! I also used it with my 16-year-old daughter and she “got” it enough to understand the process.
Dear Morty,
I wish you even more quicker recovery and health.Thanks for the app it will definitely help us, the one thing I have noticed when I have completed process, it works. but after a couple of days later when I am thinking about the same incident, it seems like the uneasy feeling is there in the gut.
Thank you
That’s expected. You haven’t changed the belief, just the occurring.
According to Morty, as I recall, if you do it often enough you will find that you stop giving meaning. Or maybe they dissolve automatically, like having a belief in ‘no meaning.’ This is consistent with what other people have said about other techniques; if you do it enough, your subconscious mind learns it and applies it where needed.
Think of it as taking a special aspirin that teaches your brain how to stop giving headaches! Plus it’s free, once you’ve learned it. What could be better?
From the mind it isclear and works, but from the heart it comes back again and again .