Last week I pointed out that The Lefkoe Method (TLM) includes nine different processes, all of them unique methods for transforming the quality of your life.  I described two of them—the Lefkoe Belief Process and the Lefkoe Stimulus Process—in detail. (See https://www.mortylefkoe.com/lefkoe-method-part-1/)

This week I’ll tell you how the Lefkoe Sense and Expectation Processes are revolutionary methods for removing barriers to you experiencing a level of joy and fulfillment most people have given up ever achieving.

As you read the following discussion of these two additional processes that are part of TLM, I want you to remember what I claimed last week:

To the best of my knowledge there isn’t another belief-elimination process out there that is guaranteed to eliminate fundamental beliefs permanently.  Moreover, I am quite confident that no one offers as complete an arsenal of processes to help you make any change you want in your life … and have it stick.  In fact, I’m not aware of any other process that produces the results that each of these processes achieve.

Have you ever heard of anything remotely like the two processes I describe below?

The Lefkoe Sense Process

 

The Lefkoe Sense Process (LSP) is useful after one eliminates all the relevant beliefs one can find and still has a negative sense of something.  This “sense” usually doesn’t exist in complete sentences, like beliefs.  A “sense” typically is described in bodily feelings, colors, images, short phrases, etc.  You actually can have a negative sense of anything, such as people, life, and work, but the most common negative sense that adversely affects our lives is a negative sense of self.

Try it right now.  Close your eyes and spend a moment looking inside for your sense of yourself. … If you find words, such as “not good enough” or “not important,” that is probably the result of beliefs like I’m not good enough and I’m not important.  But keep looking: Is there a sense that exists primarily in feelings and images?  If there is and it is negative, the LSP can help you get rid of it.

It appears that a negative sense of yourself is the result of conditioning and that the LSP de-conditions that negative conditioning.  The initial conditioning usually takes place in childhood.  Events around us—usually mom’s and dad’s behavior—lead us to have a negative feeling about ourselves.  Sometimes the feeling is a direct result of their behavior—as an example, we might have a sense of ourselves as isolated or alone in the world as a result of mom and dad not paying attention to us much of the time.

Sometimes the feeling is the result of the meaning we give their behavior—as an example, feeling not acceptable as a result of giving that meaning to mom and dad not being available much of the time.

Let me explain further.  Any child in any culture recognizes certain tones of voice and facial expressions as expressing “anger,” which most children would interpret as meaning there is something wrong with me.  Why that interpretation and not: What’s wrong with my parents?  Two reasons.

First, a child knows on some level he is dependent on his parents for his very survival.  If there is something wrong with his parents, then his survival is threatened.  Better that there is something wrong with him.

Second, children think that adults—especially their parents—have all the answers to dealing with the world; children also know they know very little about how to deal with the world.  Children are always saying, “When I grow up, then I’ll be able to … (or, then I’ll know what to do).”  So if mom and dad are angry, it must be my fault; there is something wrong with me.  Before a child has words this anger can be experienced wordlessly as: pushed away, overwhelmed, not acceptable, not okay, uncomfortable, etc.

To summarize, events in your childhood and the meanings you give those events are the source of the “sense” you formed of yourself at the time and that still exists today.

As a child we looked inside and always saw this same sense of ourselves; at some point we got conditioned to experience the sense as “who we are.”  The LSP works by getting us to realize that the sense is the result of events outside ourselves or the meaning we gave to outside events, and it never was inherent in us.  We realize our sense of ourselves is not who we are.

Although getting rid of the beliefs that constitute our sense of ourselves usually will get rid of any negative sense, sometimes there will be a conditioned negative sense that requires the LSP.  In such cases a negative feeling you’ve had about yourself for a lifetime can be extinguished in a matter of minutes.

The Lefkoe Expectation Process

The other process that might be necessary to get rid of negative feelings that often overwhelm us is the Lefkoe Expectation Process (LEP).  Sometimes, after all the relevant beliefs have been eliminated, one can still expect life to be difficult, to not get what one wants, to have anxiety in certain situations, etc.  The LEP can totally eliminate those negative expectations.  Like with the LSP, you should eliminate all the relevant beliefs first, because often that will eliminate the negative expectation.  But if the expectation is still there, use this process.

Again, to fully make real how useful this process can be, close your eyes and ask yourself what you expect regarding some area of your life, such as your relationships, career, wealth, or life in general.  … Try it right now. …

You should come up with a description of your expectation that is not necessarily in the form of specific beliefs—for example, you might expect your relationships to never work out, to never be able to make lasting change in your life, or to never accumulate wealth. All of these expectations could be caused by beliefs, but if you still had any of them after eliminating the appropriate beliefs, the LEP could de-condition them.

Expectations are formed by assuming that the future necessarily will be like the past.  In other words, if something has happened to you repeatedly (or even once if the event is really traumatic), then you will get conditioned to assume that it will continue to happen in the future.

The LEP works by having you realize that the circumstances that had something happen in the past are never exactly the same as your future circumstances, so it never makes sense to assume that your future will be exactly the same as your past, because all the relevant circumstances are never the same.

Why These Processes Are So Valuable

If, after eliminating the appropriate beliefs, you still have negative senses or expectations as a result of conditioning, the only way I know to get rid of them is to use the Lefkoe Stimulus Process and the Lefkoe Expectation Process.  And if you don’t get rid of the conditionings, you will be stuck with negative feelings that will constantly sabotage you.  You might not need to use these two processes often, but when you do, they offer relief that nothing else can provide.

(To see the actual steps of the Lefkoe Sense and Expectation Processes, please see my blog, https://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-negative-senses-and-expectations/#

Next week’s post will describe additional processes of The Lefkoe Method that you might need to eliminate all your barriers to having the life you’ve always wanted.

Please share below any comments you have on the Lefkoe Sense Process and the Lefkoe Expectation Process.

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20 Comments

  1. Antoine December 16, 2014 at 7:18 pm - Reply

    Hi mr.Lefkoe. I’m french and i would like to thank you for all the process you created, because it really change my life. I use them very often and i can see huge changes in my life. However, i still have a question: your processes aim to destroy beliefs and conditioning, and it’s awesome, but what do you think about the other way? Had you created a process to create new powerful and empowerings beliefs and conditionings in our mind? That would be an awesome tool to help people change themself and live better life!
    I know you’re a very busy people and you of course don’t have to answer my question, but if you do, i’ll be glad to hear it.
    Again, thank you very much, you rocks!
    Sheers!

  2. David May 9, 2013 at 4:42 am - Reply

    hi morty, i would really like to see the actual steps of the Lefkoe Sense and Expectation Processes… but the link takes me to a ‘page not found’ i don’t have much negative self talk any more but i have a deep sense of negativity and dread and apathy almost all the time (now that i’ve looked inside and realized it). it’s like a dark fog in and around me that life is pointless and things will not work out for me in my future.

  3. Renee November 30, 2010 at 1:17 pm - Reply

    Hi Sieg – I got the same sense as you did – I was wanting to make sure I was understanding correctly. Thanks so much for responding! Renee

  4. Renee November 30, 2010 at 11:45 am - Reply

    Morty, you wrote, “The Lefkoe Sense Process (LSP) is useful after one eliminates all the relevant beliefs one can find and still has a negative sense of something.” When you say this, do you mean the 19 beliefs found in the Natural Confidence Course, or do you mean those 19 beliefs plus any and all other negative beliefs you’ve been able to find that you hold? I realize I have dozens of negative beliefs swirling around about myself and life.

    • Morty Lefkoe December 6, 2010 at 12:46 pm - Reply

      Hi Renee,

      Thanks for your question.

      You need to eliminate all the beliefs that are relevant to a given problem and then if there is still a negative feeling, use the sense process.

      In some cases all the relevant beliefs are on the NC program; in some cases there are additional beliefs not on that program.

      But you don’t have to eliminate any and all the negative beliefs you hold.

      Love, Morty

  5. Vanessa Roff November 19, 2010 at 8:54 am - Reply

    Maybe I am thinking about this too deeply, but it occurred to me after reading, “realize that the sense is the result of events outside ourselves or the meaning we gave to outside events, and it never was inherent in us. We realize our sense of ourselves is not who we are”, then just who am I. My whole sense of self has been built off an accumulation of life experiences that I have connected meanings, some being positive and some negative, to my sense of self . Lets just say I get rid of the negative beliefs. Well Fine, all is well. Take it a step further. Lets say I get rid of all the positive beliefs because those too were conditioned beliefs. Then I think to myself, then just the hell who am I (no sarcasm implied) at my core minus all those beliefs about myself I have picked up along the way. Morty, just what is inherent in us, so to speak, that makes me “ME”? Yep, maybe I have gone a bit too deep. But I would still like to know what you think, cause this kinda shakes me to my core. And then I think again …who am I at my core without all those accumulated beliefs.

    • Morty Lefkoe November 19, 2010 at 11:08 am - Reply

      Hi Vanessa,

      To find out who you really are, do the Who Am I Really? Process that is included in the program you just purchased.

      Then post your reaction.

      Love, Morty

      • Vanessa Roff December 6, 2010 at 2:28 am - Reply

        Hey Morty,

        I wonder what I am doing wrong. I’ve been trying to load your DVD program, End Negative Self Talk, on my Mac. I have not been able to get it to work yet. Please help.

        I have listened to the “Who am I Really”. Amazing. Empowering. I now understand. I am the creator of my own self image by what I allow in or out. I can do it consciously or unconsciously.

        I can consciously filter out negative beliefs and keep or attach beliefs about myself that are beneficial. Or I can do it unconsciously, as I had previously done and just hope for the best.

        This fits with my worldview and understanding life through the lens of a Judeo-Christian perspective.

        As a creation, being created in the image of God, the ultimate creator, I get to practice my God given creativity in the creation of self. At least now, that I am aware. I am now free to receive from God all the positive he has for me. I am loved. I am lovable. I am loving.

        At my core, stripped of negative and positive beliefs I picked up along the way, I am the beauty of pure creation in His image. All that negative and positive stuff I picked up along the way when stripped away was never able to touch my stuff, my core self, created in His image.

        “Who Am I Really” has helped me find a path I may not have traveled otherwise.

        All is well,
        Vanessa

        • Morty Lefkoe December 6, 2010 at 12:43 pm - Reply

          Hi Vanessa,

          I’ve asked Karen on my staff to contact you with details on how to use the DVD on a MAC.

          Sorry you’ve been having a problem.

          Love, Morty

  6. KIRAN PATKI November 18, 2010 at 4:50 am - Reply

    Hi Morty,
    Its good to know that there are supportive structures in place to rid us of “deeper’ issues, which you have so accurately defined as sense and expectation. I am truly enjoying the Natural Confidence release of beliefs. I am at the 13th belief and am feeling much lighter and brighter. Even my bad memory has improved! Looks like a lot of the earlier defending energy has been freed up to be my authentic self. Oh, and I also sleep better.
    Thank you for this enormous gift and bless you. Cant wait to finish the beliefs and get on with my life. This time the A-Life.
    Kiran Patki

    • Morty Lefkoe November 19, 2010 at 11:09 am - Reply

      Hi Kiran,

      Glad to hear about all the improvements in your life coming from eliminating beliefs.

      Please let me know how you feel after you complete the program.

      Love, Morty

  7. David November 18, 2010 at 2:53 am - Reply

    WOW! is the best I can come up with. These revelations will have a profound impact on lives and reverse the negative perceptions that we’ve been condition with. If we as parents, teachers, or individuals understood the impact of our behaviors we would choose or words and expressions carefully! These short exercises has given me some profound revelations. Thank you so much for your work.

    • Morty Lefkoe November 19, 2010 at 11:11 am - Reply

      Hi David,

      Yes, it would be great to get parents and teachers to realize the impact of their words and behavior son thew children they deal with.

      Shelly has just created an incredible 7 CD course designed to train teachers and parents. It should make a profound difference as soon as we get hundreds of thousands of people to listen to the CDs.

      Love, Morty

      • Dan November 20, 2010 at 9:50 pm - Reply

        Is this course sold on your site?

  8. Frank Goodman November 17, 2010 at 9:38 pm - Reply

    Are The Lefkoe Sense Process and The Lefkoe Expectation Process included in Natural Confidence?

    • Morty Lefkoe November 19, 2010 at 11:21 am - Reply

      Hi Frank,

      No they aren’t. They are used rarely and only after all the relevant beliefs have been eliminated. The NC program wouldn’t have all possible beliefs, so the Sense and Expectation process would not be appropriate for this program.

      They are very targeted processes to be used by a trained facilitator.

      Love, Morty

  9. Renee November 17, 2010 at 8:20 pm - Reply

    Morty, you wrote, “The Lefkoe Sense Process (LSP) is useful after one eliminates all the relevant beliefs one can find and still has a negative sense of something.” When you say this, do you mean the 19 beliefs found in the Natural Confidence Course, or do you mean those 19 beliefs plus any and all other negative beliefs you’ve been able to find that you hold? I realize I have dozens of negative beliefs swirling around about myself and life.

    • Seig Mens November 30, 2010 at 11:48 am - Reply

      I’m looking forward to his response too but what I thought he meant was the beliefs that are relevant to the particular sense that you have remaining.

  10. Steve Cowie November 17, 2010 at 11:34 am - Reply

    I’m really surprised not to see any comments yet.

    Either people are not aware of their ‘sense of themselves’, or worth; OR they are all sitting at home going through the processes involved – or self-examining *right now*!

    I think and feel, that sense of self is critical and releasing the self (worth) from external conditioning is key to our liberation.

    • Morty Lefkoe November 17, 2010 at 6:15 pm - Reply

      Hi Steve,

      Thanks for taking the time to comment.

      I’m sure others will at some point.

      Love, Morty

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