Stop The “Little Voice” in Your Head

If you are like most people, you often hear a “little voice” in your head judging and criticizing you: “What makes you think you can do that?” “You screwed up again.” “It must have been my fault.” And on and on.

Where does this voice come from and how can we turn it off?

What is the little voice?

The voice is nothing more than the meaning you are giving something you did or didn’t do. For example, you say something at a party and on the way home you give your comment the meaning: I said something stupid and people were probably laughing behind my back. Or you decide to do something you’ve never done before and you give that decision the meaning: I can’t possible succeed at that.

In other words, you judge and evaluate yourself and the little voice in your head is just you “hearing” that judgment and evaluation.

The judgment and evaluation itself is you giving meaning to an event that has no inherent meaning. I’ve written on many occasions how we automatically and unconsciously give meaning to all types of events all day long. (See, for instance, https://www.mortylefkoe.com/important-improve-life/.) The little voice in our head is the result of that meaning-making process.

How to stop the little voice

Because it is possible to stop giving meaning to events, it is possible to stop judging and evaluating ourselves, thereby stopping the little voice in our head.

Here’s all you have to do. Whenever you catch yourself judging yourself, notice that there was some type of external event or internal thought that you judged. Notice that the judgment is something you added to the event or the thought.

Once you make a clear distinction between the event/thought and the meaning you added, the meaning will dissolve. Well over a thousand people already have successfully dissolved meaning this way.

There is no reason to continue to live plagued by a little voice that is constantly undercutting you and making you feel bad. Don’t wait any longer. Start right now dissolving meaning and notice how the little voice suddenly gets quiet.

If you haven’t already seen my TEDx talk on meaning, I urge you to view it as it will provide some very useful additional information on how to dissolve meaning: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sMdVM-t5kFs

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By Morty LefkoePublished On: Tuesday, October 1, 2013Categories: Occurring10 CommentsTags: evaluation, judgment, LBP, Lefkoe Belief Process, Lefkoe Institute, meaning, Morty Lefkoe, Tedx, The Lefkoe Method

Sarah October 17, 2013 at 3:47 pm - Reply

Hi Morty,
i have a few questions and i hope i get the answers to them :
Does your program deal with severe social anxiety ? i mean i have a problem with believing that this could cure my anxiety in just a few weeks..because what i’ve learnt so far,especially from CBT,is that it takes months to install new neural pathways in our brain and to develop new ways of thinking and behaving because of our old programming that has been here for years and years..i have problem with believing that change can occur so rapidly..also in your program,does it require to imagine certain situations with strong emotions,as if we’re already living them in order for our subconscious mind to understand them and accept them ? (because i’ve learnt that the subconscious does not make any difference between a situation visualized and a real situation) or do we only need to imagine them on an intellectual level ? also does it require to watch your videos regularly in order for them to sank deeply in our mind ? and finally what are the specific beliefs associated with social phobia ?
thank you so much
- Morty Lefkoe October 20, 2013 at 8:40 am - Reply
  
  Hi Sarah,
  
  I can appreciate your skepticism. Many people who have tried CBT or other techniques are skeptical that you can eliminate a belief in 15-20 minutes. Social phobia is caused by from 12-15 beliefs and conditionings.
  
  The best way to get a sense of our work is to try our free belief-elimination process at http://recreateyourlife.com.
  
  Most people eliminate a belief permanently the first time they go through the process and do not have to go through it again.
  
  Many people have formed the belief, change is difficult and takes a long time, after years of unsuccessfully trying to make a permanent change in their life.
  
  Love,Morty
robert October 7, 2013 at 9:23 am - Reply

dear morty,
please what do you mean “Stop The “Little Voice” in Your Head” ?
the voice will dissolve as krishnamurti said “the silent mind” ?
thank you.
robert
- Morty Lefkoe October 8, 2013 at 11:39 am - Reply
  
  Hi Robert,
  
  Yes, the voice stops. When you stop giving meaning to events, the voice will stop.
  
  I’ve noticed it in myself and others who have learned to stop giving meaning report the same.
  
  Love, Morty
Randy October 7, 2013 at 9:18 am - Reply

Morty

can you please talk about shame in ourselves and a need for reassurance ?
Randy October 2, 2013 at 11:09 am - Reply

Morty, can you write about a need for reassurance ? Thanks
- Morty Lefkoe October 8, 2013 at 11:38 am - Reply
  
  Hi Randy,
  
  We need to be reassured when we lack confidence in ourselves or what we do.
  
  That is the result of several beliefs, such as I’m inadequate, I’m powerless, I’ll never get what I want, and I’m not capable or competent.
  
  Get rid of these and other similar beliefs and the need for reassurance disappears.
  
  If you want to achieve that result, please call us at (415) 506-4472 for more information or to set up a phone or Skype session with one of our Lefkoe Method Facilitators who will help you eliminate the beliefs.
  
  Love, Morty
- Pam Davis October 10, 2013 at 6:03 pm - Reply
  
  I feel I work in a thankless job where the intrinsic rewards are nil! I am forever looking for, wanting and needing feedback from others to say thank you, words that tell me I am doing a good job, or words that I am an asset to the company! I never seem to get that so I have to look to myself to find the rewards from my job or reassurance that I am of value! It’s really tough in this economy because it makes me want to quit sometimes
Kris October 2, 2013 at 6:06 am - Reply

Hi Morty,

I have issues with trust. How do i learn to trust myself and others? Where do these types of beliefs originate from?
- Morty Lefkoe October 8, 2013 at 11:34 am - Reply
  
  Hi Kris,
  
  A lack of trust results from beliefs like, People can’t be trusted, I’m inadequate, and I’m not capable or competent. These beliefs almost always arise in childhood, from interactions with our parents.
  
  These beliefs can be quickly and easily eliminated in phone and Skype sessions with our Certified Lefkoe Method Facilitators. To get rid of your lack of trust, please call us at (415) 506-4472 for more information or to make an appointment.
  
  Love, Morty

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